Ever wondered how many times in a row a man can have sex? Or how long sex is “supposed” to last? 🧠 Let’s unpack the myths and get into the science. ✅ On average, studies show that penile-vaginal intercourse lasts 5–7 minutes. In a large multinational study of 500 heterosexual couples, the median intravaginal ejaculation latency time (IELT) that’s from penetration to ejaculation was 5.4 minutes ✅ Most men need a refractory period (aka recovery time) after orgasm. The range in the study was extremely wide: from under 1 minute to over 44 minutes. That could be a few minutes… or a few hours. It gets longer with age, stress, alcohol, or lack of sleep. And yes porn completely lies about this. ✅ Women? We don’t have a refractory period. Which is why some women can have multiple orgasms but only if they feel safe, connected, and actually turned on. ✅ Research on multiple orgasms in men is limited, and while some men report them, they are rare 🔍 How This Changes the Narrative - If you’re chasing “30‑minute sex” or multiple rounds back‑to‑back every time — you’re chasing a myth. - Knowing the average is ~5-7 minutes helps you let go of the clock and focus on what really matters: pleasure, connection, presence. - The variations (range up to 44 minutes and beyond) mean what’s normal is wide, there’s no single “right” number. - The refractory period isn’t a flaw. it’s natural and influenced by many factors (age, health, novelty). - So if you’re worried you “can’t go again” fast, or you’re done in “too short” a time. it might just be your physiology + context, not a failure. 🔥 Guys, this part is for you: If you’ve ever felt pressure to perform, go multiple rounds, or always be ready… you’re not alone. But stamina isn’t just physical. It’s emotional. Mental. Nervous-system based. 👇 So tell me: What’s helped you last longer, stay present, or enjoy sex more? Breathing? Kegels? Better foreplay? Mindset shifts? Drop your tips in the comments. let’s support each other. 🔥

Hello, everyone! I lately been sick but finally recovering and happy to be back to Skool! 🤓 Today, we delve into a compelling aspect of our being: the Sexual Constitution. Just like the inherent traits such as the color of your eyes or your height, your sexual constitution is a unique mix of characteristics that define your natural sexual expression. This includes your libido, inherent sexual preferences, and responses to sexual stimuli. 🧬 Understanding our sexual constitution is crucial as it helps us accept and embrace our natural selves, leading to healthier sexual well-being and relationships. It’s about recognizing and honoring how we are built, sexually. The frequency of sexual activity that one desires is largely influenced by their sexual constitution. Choosing the right partner involves understanding your sexual constitution, as it determines your overall sexual needs and compatibility in a relationship. Let’s Reflect Together! 🌿 - Would you be interested in understanding it more? - Would you like to learn how to calculate your sexual constitution using the trochanteric index? Understanding this measure can help you gain deeper insights into your personal sexual needs and preferences. Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences—this space is meant for us to grow and heal together in understanding and acceptance. 💬 #SexualHealing #UnderstandingSexuality #Sex

👇 How many of these still secretly live in your mind? ❌ “Harder, faster, louder = better.” Reality: More pressure doesn’t mean more pleasure. In fact, high-intensity thrusting can overstimulate nerve endings (especially the clitoris), leading to discomfort or even shutdown. Many women need slowness, rhythm, and emotional safety to even feel aroused. 🔬 Studies show that context, connection, and focus on clitoral stimulation are far more predictive of orgasm than any “pounding” technique. ❌ “If I need to talk about it then something’s wrong.” Reality: Talking is sex. Communication is intimacy. If you’re not able to ask for what you want, say no, or negotiate turn-ons — you’re not actually having great sex, you’re just performing. 🧠 According to research, couples who talk openly about their desires and boundaries report higher satisfaction and fewer sexual difficulties. ❌ “Women don’t want sex as much as men.” Reality: This is a cultural myth, its not a biological fact. Women are socialized to suppress desire and feel shame around sexual expression. But research shows that women’s arousal is responsive, it needs context, safety, and a sense of agency. When those are present, many women have equal or higher sexual desire than men. It’s not about drive - it’s about conditions. ❌ “Virginity always means bleeding.” Reality: The hymen isn’t a “seal” it’s a flexible tissue that varies hugely between people. Some are born with almost none. Some stretch from other activities (sports, tampons). Bleeding during first sex usually comes from lack of arousal or lubrication, not “breaking” anything. This myth fuels shame and violence in some cultures and it needs to go. ❌ “More sex partners = looser vagina.” Reality: Vaginas don’t “stretch out” from sex. They’re muscular, elastic, and designed to accommodate childbirth. Tightness or looseness is influenced by pelvic floor tone, arousal level, and age, not partner count. 🧠 If someone’s saying this. They’re revealing more about their insecurity than your anatomy.

In classic psychoanalysis, there are two opposing forces: 🌱 Libido from Latin libīdō = desire, longing, drive.This is your life energy: your urge to connect, create, feel pleasure, grow.It fuels sex, art, relationships, joy and aliveness itself. 🌑 Mortido from Latin mors = death. This is the destructive pull: inward aggression, apathy, shutdown, withdrawal. It shows up in depression, self-sabotage, burnout, addiction. These energies live inside all of us. They’re not “good” or “bad” but how we channel them matters. Feeling “low libido”? It might not be hormonal - it could be mortido taking the wheel. • Constant hustle without rest? That’s libido pushed into burnout - which flips into mortido. • Reconnecting to your desires, body, and pleasure activates libido and brings life back in. The body wants to feel alive. But when we suppress emotion, avoid intimacy, or carry unprocessed pain mortido grows quietly in the dark. 🛠 Want to bring libido back? – Move your body (yes, even for 5 minutes) – Dance, scream, cry, shake - let the emotion go – Say something you’ve been afraid to say – Touch yourself like someone who deserves pleasure – Be wildly honest with someone you trust

New here? Let’s not be strangers. 🍉Where are you from? 🍉What brought you here? 🍉What would you like to learn/find here? 🍉Maybe one thing we should know about you? I’ll go first 👀