Sex & Stamina ⏰ · 🍉 Sexual Healing 🍉

Sex & Stamina ⏰

Ever wondered how many times in a row a man can have sex?

Or how long sex is “supposed” to last?

🧠 Let’s unpack the myths and get into the science.

✅ On average, studies show that penile-vaginal intercourse lasts 5–7 minutes.

In a large multinational study of 500 heterosexual couples, the median intravaginal ejaculation latency time (IELT) that’s from penetration to ejaculation was 5.4 minutes

✅ Most men need a refractory period (aka recovery time) after orgasm.

The range in the study was extremely wide: from under 1 minute to over 44 minutes.

That could be a few minutes… or a few hours.

It gets longer with age, stress, alcohol, or lack of sleep.

And yes porn completely lies about this.

✅ Women? We don’t have a refractory period.

Which is why some women can have multiple orgasms but only if they feel safe, connected, and actually turned on.

✅ Research on multiple orgasms in men is limited, and while some men report them, they are rare

🔍 How This Changes the Narrative

If you’re chasing “30‑minute sex” or multiple rounds back‑to‑back every time — you’re chasing a myth.
Knowing the average is ~5-7 minutes helps you let go of the clock and focus on what really matters: pleasure, connection, presence.
The variations (range up to 44 minutes and beyond) mean what’s normal is wide, there’s no single “right” number.
The refractory period isn’t a flaw. it’s natural and influenced by many factors (age, health, novelty).
So if you’re worried you “can’t go again” fast, or you’re done in “too short” a time. it might just be your physiology + context, not a failure.

🔥 Guys, this part is for you:

If you’ve ever felt pressure to perform, go multiple rounds, or always be ready… you’re not alone.

But stamina isn’t just physical.

It’s emotional. Mental. Nervous-system based.

👇 So tell me: What’s helped you last longer, stay present, or enjoy sex more? Breathing? Kegels? Better foreplay? Mindset shifts?

Drop your tips in the comments. let’s support each other. 🔥

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