Activity
Mon
Wed
Fri
Sun
Nov
Dec
Jan
Feb
Mar
Apr
May
Jun
Jul
Aug
Sep
What is this?
Less
More

Owned by Hakeem

Choose Yourself Community

55 members • $30/m

Stop waiting to be chosen. Own your story, live your truth, and build a life that’s yours... not the one the world scripted for you.

Memberships

Skoolers

175k members • Free

THE PORTAL

93 members • $19/m

ULT Lifestyle Transformation

105 members • Free

352 contributions to Choose Yourself Community
A challenge in the challenge
🔥 Day 13 of the Challenge and for some of us, even deeper than that. The cravings are quieter, the systems are stronger, and the discipline is showing up in ways we didn’t even expect. 🐬 This weekend, I challenge you to add a challenge to the Challenge. Step into a space where you normally lean on a vice and prove to yourself you don’t need it. ☕ Hit a coffee shop and skip the latte : drink water, eat some eggs, and enjoy the vibe without the jitters. 🎉 Go out with your friends sober : dance harder, laugh louder, and remember the night fully. 🎶 Show up to an event without “pre-gaming” with weed : prove your presence is enough to enjoy it. 📺 Watch a movie without snacks : sit in the story, not the sugar. 🍝 Go to dinner without ordering a drink : taste the food like you actually have taste buds. The point isn’t to punish yourself….it’s to discover how much of the fun was always you, not the crutch. 💡 Novelty rewires the brain faster than routine. Every time we prove we can enjoy life without a vice, we rewire dopamine to reward presence instead of poison. So this weekend, flip the script. Add a challenge to your Challenge. Show yourself that freedom doesn’t come from vices, it comes from choosing yourself. If the cravings get loud, remember what it will feel like when you show up to Tuesday Chooseday and are able to share your win! 💬 What’s one thing you’ll do this weekend, vice-free, to prove to yourself that you were always the main event? 🫡🐬 Hakeem
2 likes • 2d
I will be going to cocktail party on a rooftop on the Hudson River with colleagues that I usually drink with from 10pm - 1am tonight and I’ll be drinking soda water with lemon, eating fruits, smashing veggies and juicy meat ⏸️ from the buffet. 🔥
1 like • 20h
@Emmanuelle Gob 🔥🔥💪🏽 looked fun!
The Four Anchors of LIFE ⚓️
⏳ Time, presence, faith, and foundation : the four anchors that keep us steady long enough to see our blessings arrive. 🐬 The temptation when things feel uncertain is to get frantic, to numb out, to fall back into the very vices we said we’d let go.. but blessings don’t bloom overnight. Seeds need time, roots need depth, and storms need patience to pass. 💡 Our brains are wired with a negativity bias, meaning stress makes us over-focus on threats and under-notice opportunities. That’s why building a foundation gives our nervous system the calm to actually see the good when it comes. (Foundation course available now in classroom tabun SKOOL app) 📖 As Marcus Aurelius said: “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” Even our struggles are shaping us to receive what’s meant for us. 🙏 “Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” — Martin Luther King Jr. So don’t block your blessings by running back to comfort when things feel heavy. Stay focused on the prize, stay present with your intention, and trust that the time you invest in your foundation is the very soil your blessings are rooting in. 💬 What blessing might already be growing in your life that you’ve been too frantic to notice? Enjoy your weekend - 🫡🐬 Hakeem
0 likes • 2d
@Emmanuelle Gob 💪🏽🐬
0 likes • 2d
@Sarina Pepper 🔥🐬💫
Chooseday Recap 9/23
🌱 Today’s session with Evie was equal parts wisdom, science, and the kind of truths most people are too shy to say out loud. That’s why we loved it. 💫She took us through the heavy stuff : grief, menopause, and recovery. We discussed how awareness of our hormones and health can actually free us. We learned why muscle is medicine as we age, protecting metabolism and keeping us strong. 🥤 As a certified juice therapist, she broke down gut health and why colon care matters more than we admit. We even talked coffee enemas because sometimes the most uncomfortable conversations are the ones that clean us out (literally) 💊 We’re som things Borderline TMI for a self loser? Maybe. But for self choosers we want to know as much as we can about our health! 🐬 At the heart of it, today was about awareness: what we put in, what we flush out, and what systems we need to protect. Gut, hormones, muscle, colon : the unglamorous truths that actually determine how long and how well we thrive. Site : https://www.eviekevish.com/ Insta : https://www.instagram.com/eviekevish/ Tik Tok : https://www.tiktok.com/@midlifemoodswings Click here for replay See you same time next week! - Hakeem 🫡🐬
0 likes • 2d
@Sarina Pepper you’re crushing it! Keep going 🫡🐬
Foundational focus
🌅 The morning and the night are sacred. Not for your family, not for your job, not for your notifications .. for you! 🐬 If we don’t choose ourselves in those margins of the day, we eventually run out of capacity to choose the people we love when they truly need us. Empty cups don’t pour, they crack. ✨ Fill up first : Stretch, pray, write, move, breathe. Protect your mornings and nights so your days don’t collapse. Choosing yourself there isn’t selfish .. it’s how we show up selfless. Foundational living is the lifestyle of a true self chooser. What is your favorite part of your foundation? 🫡🐬Hakeem
3 likes • 5d
My favorite part is building mental and physical muscle 💪🏽
1 like • 5d
@Kayla Pattison 🔥🐬
Chooseday Special Guest Evie
Special guest today, Evie! A certified juice therapist + health nutritionist joining us live to answer your questions on gut health, hormonal balance, the microbiome, and even premenopausal symptoms. Check her out: https://www.instagram.com/eviekevish?igsh=M3BraDdzanQ1cXZo 🐬 Opportunities like this cost money outside these walls but in CYC, they’re here to help us grow, connect, and get answers in real time. 🧠 This is how we build momentum… by feeding the mind, asking better questions, and applying wisdom straight into our lives. Don’t miss it. Growth only happens when we show up and engage. 💬 What’s one question about your health or habits that you’ve been putting off asking? Today is your chance. Let’s grow! Hakeem 🫡🐬
2 likes • 6d
@Ine Saka 10AM EST. The calendar will always have updated info.
2 likes • 6d
@Ine Saka we have an episode with her on my podcast too. Tap in.
1-10 of 352
Hakeem Mcfarlane
7
5,820points to level up
@hakeem-mcfarlane-9968
The Choose Yourself Community is dedicated to providing perspective and resources for personal growth to strengthen the connectivity of humanity

Active 18h ago
Joined Jun 30, 2024
Powered by