Hey everyone, I'll be looking to start this next month. As we've discussed, it will be an elimination-style fun competition that everyone can compete in for MASSIVE prizes, including all-expenses paid 1:1 coaching with me. But, of course, you should be doing it to help yourself develop and grow. This month's challenge will be all about building your social circle! It will help if you have access to the Building Rapport course (but it's not necessary). That course will go on sale with a $100 discount this weekend for those who don't have it yet. The challenge will require that you post in this group multiple times per week to stay in the competition, so if you're keen to compete make sure you have some time set aside for social building next month. All the actions will be manageable and do-able for anyone, so it's just a matter of commitment to your goals. Comment "I'm in!" below if you're keen..

I'm keen to learn more about you guys. When you look at your most frustration repeated patterns, what do you see in terms of self-sabotage? Mine is trying to act on every idea I have and spreading myself too thin.

Generally, the scientific consensus is that confident people score high in empathy; or more accurately, they do not correlate with low empathy. While people in positions of power, or narcissists, have low empathy and yet may also experience feelings of confidence, their idea of “confidence” is - in my opinion - a fragile pseudo-confidence that’s easily shattered by external factors. It's more like arrogance, certainty, and competence. However, I do have a hypothesis that building true self-confidence reduces a certain element of empathy, namely: the emotional sympathy and “caring” reaction. In other words, you care less in that you don't feel others' pain as much. Confident people don’t “care” as much emotionally as low-confidence people do. They’re not as attached to external things and people, yet they are still able to demonstrate cognitive empathy, i.e. they can rationalise other peoples’ behaviour through mentally putting themselves in the other person’s shoes. They don’t get upset about other people being upset, yet are able to comprehend why they’re upset and how they must feel. I noticed this with my own development, particularly during my time as a Probation Officer. In that job, there simply isn’t the mental room and resources available to become upset over every upsetting thing, because there’s too many of them! When you deal with drug addicts and rapists and gang members every day, “upsetting” becomes mundane. You develop a numbness to the horror and sadness. I imagine it’s similar for military and medical staff. You can’t feel much because you simply wouldn’t be able to do your job. You’re also in a type of work that requires the development of self-confident traits, like decisiveness, assertiveness, courage, backing yourself, leadership, and even a touch or more of ruthlessness. It doesn’t remove your empathy, but it does transform it into something more efficient and practical. I’ve known some highly empathetic people - in the emotional sense - and they quite simply struggle to function on a daily basis. They’re the ones who are devastated by the wars they see on the news, and are constantly wrapped up in the social dramas of their friends. If their parents are sick, an empath won’t be able to sleep for the worrying. If their child loses his favourite toy, the overly empathetic parent will grieve more than the kid does.

Hey guys, A few years ago, inspired by Marcus Aurelius' "Meditations", I wrote a book of short Lessons I've picked up from my time as a coach and running Brojo. If you'd like a copy of this book, type "Lessons" into the comments below and I'll DM it to you Cheers Dan

Daily Dose of Integrity New full length video out today! In this episode, we break down why the popular phrase “happy wife, happy life” is silently destroying relationships — and eroding men’s confidence in the process. What starts as good intentions often turns into self-abandonment: saying yes when you mean no, hiding your opinions, tolerating disrespect, and prioritizing her happiness at the cost of your own integrity. We explore how this people-pleasing dynamic kills attraction, creates resentment, and ultimately leads to emotional disconnection. You’ll learn why your partner doesn’t actually want a yes-man, how trying to fix her emotions backfires, and what it really means to be a confident, grounded man in a long-term relationship. If you’re tired of walking on eggshells, constantly trying to keep the peace, or wondering why your relationship feels off — this conversation will help you take your power back. 👉 Watch now to reclaim your integrity, speak your mind without guilt, and rebuild the respect you’ve lost — both from her and from yourself. Watch the video here: https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/the-death-of-happy-wife-happy-life-and-the-rise-of-confident-masculinity/