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Feeling invisible in your relationship is one of the most painful experiences you can have. It’s like you’ve faded into the background of your own relationship. Sadly, it’s very common and it’s one of the struggles I hear a lot from clients in my relationship trainings. Here’s what’s interesting… When you become invisible in your relationship, it’s not usually because of a lack of love. It’s not even that your partner doesn’t care or that they aren’t trying… More often than not, most partners do genuinely care; they are committed, and they believe they’re doing everything right. And they’re right… at least on the surface. They are there. But something essential is missing. But being physically present isn’t the same as being emotionally engaged. If you ever feel invisible, it’s because you stop really seeing each other. Somewhere along the way, the spark of truly noticing each other has faded. Invisibility comes from being present without attention and connection. It’s conversations where you nod, but don’t truly listen. It’s the routines where you touch, but don’t actually feel. It’s the habitual hug or kiss that carries no real sentiment. It’s the daily routines that keep you side by side, but not truly connected. This is how invisibility creeps in. It’s not through absence, but through attention that has grown shallow. And it means a person can sit next to the one they love and still feel erased. When this happens, I challenge couples to do something really powerful… And it’s super simple… Sit opposite one another and look into each other’s eyes. Really see each other again. Not just as the parent, the partner, or the provider, but as the whole, complex person sitting across from you. Really look. See the person in front of you. See the person you first fell in love with. When someone feels seen, the smallest gesture, be it a glance, a kind word, a handheld with intention, can bring your relationship back to life. And that shift doesn’t require grand changes.

It seems harmless at first… You let something slide because you don’t want to start a fight, or you stay quiet to “protect” your relationship. In those moments, avoiding conflict feels like the right choice. Why rock the boat, right? But here’s what actually happens… The issue doesn’t get resolved :-( And you feel a little less connected to your partner. You see, every time you avoid bringing up an issue, it’s like putting another brick in the invisible wall between you and your partner. I completely understand why you might think you’re protecting your relationship by doing it. But that wall is blocking the very intimacy your relationship needs to thrive. So if you continue to avoid conflict to keep the peace, you’ll end up less connected because nothing gets resolved. And it you keep avoiding it then that emotional distance will quietly grow…. Romantic feelings then begin to fade... And soon, you avoid even more, because you don’t feel in love anymore. Avoiding conflict is basically a silent relationship killer. But know this… The very thing you’re avoiding is the exact doorway back into closeness.

I was thinking about this while practicing the piano the other day and it’s actually quite simple in my view… Sorry to break it to all you hopeless romantics but love alone is not enough to maintain a beautiful relationship :-( If love was enough, everyone who ever fell in love would be happily in their relationships forever after, right? But that's not the case. So if love isn’t enough then what else do you need? Well… You need the tools and skills. You see, a relationship is like a piano. You don’t play something beautiful on the piano just because you love music. You play something beautiful because you show up to the keys every day. Because you understand rhythm. Because you keep going, even when you hit the wrong notes. Because you tune it when it's out of harmony. Because you practice everyday, even when you're tired and you don't feel like it. Love is what you put in, but it’s not the piano. What tune are you getting in your relationship? That will depend on your ability to care… On your ability to communicate… On your ability to repair… On your ability to navigate conflict effectively… On your ability to stay present when you'd rather avoid And on your ability to heal your childhood wounds so they don't pollute the relationship. It's complex. It requires a lot of skill. And a beautiful relationship only happens when you are willing to show up consistently and are willing to sharpen your skills. Which is why I’m glad you’re here. Relationships takes effort and consistency, and if you get lazy, you will keep hitting bum notes and the music will sound terrible. What are your thoughts?

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