Let me say this first…This is not for you to feel bad for me.....I don’t feel bad for myself. This is for you to be encouraged. Because the truth is… Life did not hand me the easiest start. I remember having a mother who was sick… Me and my sister just going from house to house. I remember being touched inappropriately. I remember losing my mom at 8 years old. I remember being placed in situations that no child should ever have to navigate. By 13… I was in a sexual relationship with a family member that lasted for years. I’ve had an abortion. I know what it feels like to be on the street trying to make money just to feed my child. I know what it feels like to have a father for your child that doesn’t want to be there. I know what it feels like to think you finally figured love out… only to realize you married a narcissist. I know pain!!!Not the surface kind. The kind that sits in your chest. The kind that rewires how you think. The kind that follows you into adulthood. So when I talk about mental health… I’m not talking from a book. I’m talking from experience. But here’s the part that matters.I had a choice. Not just as a parent… But as a person. I could stay in the place life tried to leave me in… Or I could rise.And that’s the part people don’t always talk about. Yes, feel it!!! Yes, acknowledge it!!! But do NOT stay there. Because you are not just what happened to you. The Word says in 1 John 4:4: “Greater is He that is in me, than he that is in the world.” In Romans 8:37: “We are more than conquerors…” In Isaiah 54:17: “No weapon formed against you shall prosper…” In 2 Corinthians 5:17: “If anyone is in Christ, they are a new creation…” In Philippians 4:13: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” So yeah… I went through it. I had to get it out the mud. And if you don’t know what that means… it means starting from nothing, figuring life out the hard way, surviving things that should’ve broken you, and STILL finding a way to stand And here’s what I learned:

So many of us who are raising kids without our child’s other parent present have gotten used to calling ourselves “single parents.” But I had to step back and ask myself… Am I really “single”?Or have I just accepted a label God never gave me? Because let’s be real...sometimes the word single can feel like: • less than• rejected• unseen• unappreciated• left to do life alone But God NEVER called you “less than.” He calls you: Set apart.Chosen.Beloved child.Redeemed.Forgiven.A friend of God.His workmanship. So today I’m being honest… I’ve called myself a “single mom” FAR too much.And it stops today. Because I am not abandoned.I am not forgotten.I am not unloved. ✨ I am a CHOSEN mother.✨ I am a REDEEMED mother. And you.... yes YOU...YOU ARE 🧡 a chosen father🧡 a chosen mother🧡 a redeemed father🧡 a redeemed mother🧡 a SET APART parent Be careful what you label yourself.....because words carry weight. So watch your mouth when you talk about God’s chosen…and guess what? YOU are chosen. You are not raising those babies alone.God IS your help.And He is sending you help... in His time, in His way. Help is on the way.Wait patiently… not as someone abandoned…but as someone FULLY LOVED, FULLY COVERED, and FULLY CHOSEN. With your beautiful / handsome self. 🧡

A lot of conversations around ADHD, autism, and different diagnoses turn into “Where did this come from?” “Is it generational?” “Can it be prayed away?” “Is this spiritual or natural?” And I’m going to say this with love… We can spend so much time trying to figure out where it came from… that we neglect what we’re supposed to do right now. Because at the end of the day… Whether it came from generations before… Or this is simply how your child was born…your responsibility does not change. If your child catches a cold… You don’t sit there all day trying to figure out where it came from. You treat it. You nurture them. You give them what they need. So when it comes to our children… We can’t get stuck in: renouncing everything or ignoring everything or debating everything We take a full approach. We pray We believe God We stand on His Word AND… We build structure We teach discipline We get support if needed We show up consistently Because faith without works is dead. You can pray all day… But your child still needs guidance structure training It is OK to believe God for healing. But while you are believing…you still have to build. Because what if… God doesn’t remove it immediately… but uses it to grow YOU? To strengthen your patience… your leadership… your dependence on Him… Think about Moses. He struggled with speaking… And God didn’t remove it. He worked THROUGH it. He sent help. He still used him. So the question is not just Will God, take this away. The question is also God, how do I lead my child through this? Because one day… your child will not have you right there. Will they only know “My parent prayed for me…” Or will they know: how to stand how to function how to navigate life because you trained them? Let’s not just pray over our children… Let’s prepare them.

Stop letting one hard day make you think you’re a bad parent. Your child had an attitude yesterday? Welcome to parenting. They didn’t listen the first time? Neither did you when you were their age. You lost your patience and had to regroup?That doesn’t make you a failur, that makes you human. Listen to me carefully. The enemy would love for you to sit in guilt, shame, and self-doubt… because tired, discouraged parents stop leading. But that’s not who you are. God trusted YOU with those children. Not the perfect parent on Instagram.Not the family that looks polished on social media. YOU. That means you already have what you need to grow, learn, and lead your home. So get up today with confidence. Pray over your children. Speak life into your house. Correct with love. Lead with courage. Because strong families are not built by perfect parents. They’re built by parents who refuse to quit on their assignment.

We’ve grown to over 1.3K parents in this community… And I don’t want this to just be a place where you scroll and leave. I want this to be a space that actually serves your family. So I’m asking you directly: -What do you need right now in your parenting? Be honest. Do you need • more structured courses? • specific topics taught in the classroom? • short, free mini series you can apply quickly? • 1:1 Mentoring with me on zoom? • live Zoom sessions where we walk through real situations together? • something for your children directly? What would actually help you grow in your home? Not what sounds good… -What do you actually NEED? I’m building this with intention, and I want to make sure we’re not just talking… but truly growing as Kingdom families. Drop it below. I’m listening.