اسلام علیکم I want to share something I'm struggling with and want to get out of ..so I have been quite introvert when it comes to public involvement but I used to speak up even If I felt afraid if it felt needed I had no other choice and while going from secondary school to college I felt anxious and insecure while interacting with public and going through this I realised consuming too much information or knowing too much from social media had made me too much careful and from then till today I'm trying to get better as I realised the importance of being carefree and its link to your relationship with Allah and your knowledge about him as one who knows izzat and zillat is in his hands is not afraid of public embarrassment...I would recommend every member of this community to be good communicator and fearful of Allah alone which is the only way to get rid of other fears which otherwise become an obstacle and as a Muslim we need to be confident ..جزاک اللہ خیر If anyone wants to add or advice anything related to this should do so

At first, the hour felt unbearable. No phone. No snack. No background noise pretending to be comfort. Just her. And the pull. Her hand reached for the phone without thinking. Her mind whispered, “Just five minutes. You’ve earned it.” She resisted. Not heroically. Not gracefully. Awkwardly. Restlessly. The minutes dragged. Her body felt louder than her thoughts. Hunger knocked. Boredom paced the room. The nafs complained. But she stayed. The second day, the same hour came again. The pull was still there— but weaker. Her hand paused this time. By the fifth day, something unexpected happened. The hour no longer felt empty. Her breathing softened. Her thoughts slowed. The restlessness lost its urgency. What once felt like deprivation began to feel like space. By the tenth day, she noticed something deeper. The joy she used to chase through instant comfort had been shallow and brief. But this new calm—earned, delayed, chosen—lingered. She wasn’t forcing herself anymore. She was adapting. Her nafs had learned a new rhythm. Not everything that calls you deserves an answer. Not every urge needs immediate relief. Some things grow sweeter when waited for. And slowly, almost quietly, she realized: Delayed gratification doesn’t feel like punishment forever. At some point— it starts feeling like freedom. *Soft Coaching Takeaway* Every time you say “not now” to the nafs, you train it to trust something better is coming.