Background: First daughter (39) single- no children: After official estrangement in 2021, we are building trust in our relationship as I have been keeping her cat since May 2025. (lives a state away) I am thankful for the turn of events. Second daughter (38) married - no children: There has been no official statement of estrangement. (lives a state away) She is going through a difficult divorce since June. I support long-distance via simple messages and hear nothing back. Third daughter (37) single - no children: We are officially estranged since December 2023. (lives across the country) January 2025 she messaged me she was engaged and only told me the gentleman’s first name. She said they would have the ceremony ‘next year,’ which puts it in 2026. I sent a text last evening with the following words: “Good evening, I am curious about wedding plans possibly happening this year. I would to love to attend and thus make plans to be there. With love and support, Mom” I was a single parent for 11 years after a 10 year marriage to their father. He was emotionally abusive and then other abuse toward them after the divorce. I remarried to a good man whom they were fond of When he passed in 2014, while they were in their late twenties, in hindsight, things began to change as a whole. Then, during the pandemic each began to distance in individual ways and timings. The point of my post: I am currently in the middle of module 2 and journaling as I begin the program. While waiting for a response from the third daughter, whom is engaged, about the possible wedding date, I am shaky at work. All kinds of thoughts of how I failed as a parent are swirling in my head. I request. . . suggestions on ways to keep my nervous system regulated to not be anxious and shaky at work, and to be productive at home and not in bed or on the couch. Thank you~

Today is what we have. The question I want to ask you is this: If you were to do an inventory of your time, is it being spent on the people or things that are most important to you? If you could do that, what would it look like to you? Give me a person's calendar or their checkbook and I will know what is important to them. If you are looking to grow and change, how might knowing your priorities help you achieve the things of your heart? Pondering is powerful. Let me know what you learn.

One of the most significant insights I have gained through the difficulties of my life has been the power of gratitude. I have especially found it helpful when life was really hard. Have you ever had moments when you thought you couldn't crawl over the finish line of something hard? You are not alone. In moments of my greatest challenges, I have sought ways to be thankful. Let me keep it real though. I am also honest (with God) about my sadness, frustration, anger or disappointment with the things that happen. I am very direct when I talk to God because that is what a real relationship looks like with Him. Since He doesn't have the ability to be disappointed (He knows what I am going to think, say, and do at all times), I can pour out where I am regardless of what I am feeling. The good news is He can handle it. I don't expect everyone to share my faith but what I know is this:gratitude is one of the most researched and validated mindset shifts we have. It measurably improves mental health, rewires the brain, lowers stress, strengthens relationships, and is even associated with longer life. I am thankful for each of you in this community. I am grateful you are teachable, caring, open, and growing. I am deeply touched by how you care for each other in such an honorable way. It is a privilege to walk along side a group of people who are hungry to be the best version of themselves!

Hello Parent, I am so excited you are here! We are going on a journey together that will help you create the relationship with your adult child you have always wanted. Parenting in this season is not for the faint of heart and I know from personal and professional experience what it takes to be a successful parent to adult kids. You are already ahead of the curve. You are here, hungry to learn, and wanting to grow! Your children are fortunate to have a parent like you who is teachable and willing to invest in your relationship with them. There is no ceiling on a parent who is committed to being the best version of themselves and you will learn on this journey how to be who your child needs you to be: Accepting, emotionally safe, and worthy of trust. Parenting is about you and how you show up in the relationship, not how your children turn out. This is your journey so take whatever time you need to walk through this framework. I have helped parents for over 40 years and I have implemented what you will see and hear with my own adult children, who are in their 40's. I will take you through this process step by step so you know exactly how to incorporate these skills and insights into your life. I want you to be kind to yourself as you start this process. There are millions of parents who have the same questions so take comfort in knowing you are not alone. The good news is that now you are a part of a community who will learn together how to parent adults with confidence and grace. Thanks again for being a part of the P.A.R.E.N.T. Method community. Let's get started! Warmly, Catherine

The time for our gathering on Tuesday will be 12:00 EST. Moving forward, I will do it at 11:30 on Tuesdays, EST.