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The Next Cohort (Not Open Yet)
I want to make something visible before I make it available. Later this year, I’ll be running a small group-coaching "cohort." This is different from courses, content and community. Based on my latest findings around the need for guys to translate information into behaviour change, I've designed something specifically to tackle that issue. This will be for men who are ready to stop circling their problems and start solving them. Here’s what it will include: - Live coaching - Direct feedback - Hot seats - Invite-only inclusion - Strong commitments - Uncomfortable friction Here’s what it WON'T be about: - Learning more theory - Endlessly processing information - Waiting to watch the recording - A place to quietly observe others do stuff Brojo and the Brotherhood is for awareness, community, and clarity. The cohort is the next level up: it's all about implementation. If Brotherhood feels like: “I understand myself better now…” then the cohort is for when it becomes, “I’m still avoiding the same shit I need to deal with.” Enrollment is not open yet. I’ll be inviting people privately soon. For now, just notice your reaction to this idea: - Relief / Curiosity / Excited fear (this might be for you) - Resistance / Indifference / Eye rolling (not for you) More soon.
The Next Cohort (Not Open Yet)
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Resistance / Indifference / Eye rolling (not for you) 😂 Well put. I feel like saying that to people when I tell them things, and they think I'm doing stupid unnecessary things for myself, but they're just not at this level of awareness yet, and I should just not spend time on deaf ears.
Recognizing action
Today I want to give recognition to @Dana R , @Jason Stobart and @Lawrence Gibson for their continued dedication towards taking bold new actions. They get extra kudos from me for also posting about their efforts here in the Brojo Skool to inspire and support others who are keen to make moves. More of this please everyone :) Thanks guys! Dan
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Even though I live in a small town and have a high chance of knowing alot of the people here, I'm still inspired to give some of these actions a try.
🔥 Day 27: Relationship Standards (Not Hopes)
Hope is not a strategy. If you want a great social life, you will need to engineer it. Great relationships are a result of your decisions, not luck. Your task: Write: - 5 standards for how you show up to social interactions - 5 standards for who you allow close Comment below: Share one standard you’ve been violating.
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@Aaron Frater I do the same. But realness is starting to come from me. And those rejecting me and not liking it I never really was meant to be with in the first place. Well actually I was a scared little boy so I did need those people to talk to to justify my inadequacies and help relate to how the world was to blame. But not so much now. And even though I want to talk to them the same as I always have for their benefit, I hate myself when I do.
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I've been automatically putting myself below people the second i see them, and so then I act accordingly. I put myself down and disrespect myself as if I need permission because I think I don't deserve to be talking to them. And they feel that. That is one of the things that I told myself I want to try to change this year, but so far I've mostly been staying the same and doing the automatic similar approach of going through the motions and violating my own integrity. I'm definitely going to work on this because I think that will be the simplest and most important place to start that will hopefully help me to see that I am worth it and can do it.
🔥 Day 23: Social Courage in Action
Confidence isn’t a feeling - it's a behaviour. For most of you, being courageously socially will unlock bravery and integrity in all other areas of life. If you want 2026 to be great, you must accept the trade-off: you must initiate and endure emotionally uncomfortable social interactions. Choose ONE (that's uncomfortable but not terrifying): - Express a preference you usually suppress - Set a boundary to respect yourself - Initiate a conversation with someone new - Say “no” without justifying your reason Post below: What you did and how you feel about yourself having done it. P.S. The Boundaries and Confrontations course is a masterclass in these skills https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/classroom/7bd26d27
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I finally got frustrated enough with being disrespected by my 13yo daughter(behavior which I've let her do her whole life and taught her to do through my people pleasing to be liked) to not be able to push it down anymore, and I blew up and yelled and told her not to do what she's doing otherwise there'll be consequences. Which isn't good because it's not a civil way to handle anything. And it wasn't her fault when she gets away with the same behavior usually. And also it wasn't a planned integrity step. But I do like that for once I didn't hold my tongue and hate myself for being walked all over and build another resentment.
🔥 Day 21: Relationship Integrity Check
Integrity shows up fastest in relationships. It's when we're being watched, and attached to certain reactions from others, that we're most likely to betray our core values. On the other hand, if you can maintain integrity during social interactions, you'll be rewarded in the long run with high quality and reliable relationships. Your task: Answer: - Where do I people-please? - Where do I avoid honesty? - Where do I over-give or under-express? Choose one relationship where you’ll show up differently this month. Post below: Share the behavior change (keep the other person anonymous). P.S. The Powerful Honesty course will help with this https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/classroom/f8a97065
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When I'm delivering in my job I always overshare and use to many cliche and high pitched people pleasing voices, which is a customer service imposter syndrome trap that happens to me immediately. And I don't really even know what not doing it would look like. So it's hard to connect or bring the task me out, who ever that is. Although I have tried different approaches. But I think I'm going to aim for under sharing, less talking, and barely a response unless necessary. Like the bad customer service people at fast-food divethroughs who treat people like another number. And see where I go from there. Because when I'm people pleasing I've noticed that people don't like me anyway.
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On the journey of a life time. And life didn't begin till I started it. Event though everything in the first 39 years was also a necessary part of it

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