I hope you find some peace in his words as well. Enjoy. “What’s so is always just what’s so. What’s so doesn’t care what you think, feel, intend or wish; it will not bend. You can be freaked out or driven over what’s so, and it won’t change what’s so. If you’re late for an appointment, getting freaked out about it won’t have you arrive any earlier. If you’re having a bad day, being freaked out won’t change what’s so. That which you seek will not bring you satisfaction – aligning with what’s so will. When you’re upset, you’re never upset over what’s so. What’s so is just what’s so, and you’re upset. If your house burns down and you get upset, does it bring your house back? What’s so doesn’t care if you’re upset; it’s up to you how you handle what’s so. There is no confusion in what’s so. When you don’t know you just don’t know – there is no confusion there. There’s nothing right or wrong about what’s so. What’s so is always open to different interpretations. There’s always just what’s so, and then you have an interpretation. What scares you isn’t what’s so, it’s your interpretation. The interpretation is never true; what’s so is real, the interpretation is not. Who you’re being is just who you’re being, and what’s so doesn’t care if you’re happy with it or not, so why should you? When you’re not being with what’s so, that’s also just what’s so. Why should you concern yourself? Other people should always be the way they’re being; if you think they shouldn’t, that’s your interpretation. Bring yourself back to what’s so about them. Until you can be with what’s so, you can’t be with anything or anyone. You may have control over other people’s what’s so, but none over their interpretation – give it up. If you take action or not, it’s still just what’s so. If it works out well or not, it’s still just what’s so. You can never make a right or wrong decision, or take a right or wrong action. Whatever you do will always bring you more of what’s so, and then you have an interpretation about it. Whatever you don’t have, so what? Whatever you’ve done or thought in the past, again so what? Whatever happens in the future is not to be feared. It’s just going to be more of what’s so. The challenge is to spend as much time in what’s so as you can. The chatter in your head is more interpretation, and it has nothing to do with what’s so. There’s nothing wrong with the chatter, it’s just you listening to a fantasy.

Yesterday each of you posted your "I can't", and what that looks like for you. This is the area of your life you've confessed that you are powerless to. Today, I would like for you to begin your weekly assignment with a follow up to that post by leaving a comment under this post answering the following things....remember, these are asking for deeper insight around what you posted in your comment yesterday. This is not due until Tuesday the 7th at 5pm CST. An email has been sent to confirm this as your 1st check-in of week 2. All that is due on the 1st check-in of next week is this assignment. The 2nd check-in later in the week will focus on sharing through voice notes and I'll offer a bit of guidance on what we will exchange around. Read this carefully and pay attention to what's being asked. This is where we start to clean up our language. Myself included! Let's begin.... Naming your "can't": • What is the pattern? • What is the actual behavior? • What do you keep doing? • What can’t you seem to stop doing? • What do you keep returning to even though it costs you? Say it straight. Example: NOT: “I struggle with self-worth around relationships.” More like: “When I feel rejected, I obsess, spiral, check my phone, stalk emotionally, and lose my peace.” Give one real, recent example of this pattern from your actual life. Answer the following: • What happened? • Who was involved? • What did you do? • What did you say? • What did you avoid? • What was the situation? Keep it concrete. One situation. One example. One doorway into the truth. Separate the Layers. A. What happened? State the facts only. B. What did you feel? Use actual feelings words:sad, ashamed, angry, scared, lonely, numb, overwhelmed, hurt, jealous, guilty, empty, etc. What story did you tell? What did you make it mean about: • yourself? • the other person? D. What did you actually do? Name the behavior. Did you: • withdraw • shut down • lash out • punish • over-explain • lie • hide • numb out • scroll

For me it is control! Observing how I control every moment of my day. From the way I make my coffee feed my animals . The way I say if you want something done do it yourself because no one can please me. Although my husband helps me around the house I find myself getting irritated. I’ve created all these rules around how things are to be done in my life and if it doesn’t fit in my box I feel anger and irritation inside my body. Not to get caught up on stories but this question brings me back to childhood. My sister and o shared a room but I was neat and she was messy. I always cleaned our bedroom because even as a child no one could do it better than me and noon could please me. This also brings in the perfectionism as well. Which are tied together. Obsession with my looks how I dress my presentation.

Human beings carry stories in their muscles long before they carry them in words. The nervous system remembers patterns the way a river remembers its channel. Change the channel slowly enough, and the river eventually flows somewhere new. The goal is not to force change upon yourself, it is to catch patterns in the act of happening. Instead of focusing on a single moment, this week I am inviting you to track repeated sensations throughout the week—tight throat before speaking, stomach drop when money comes up, shoulder tension when someone asks for something. Patterns reveal themselves when attention gets curious. This work really begins the moment you realize: “My body is not betraying me. It’s reporting information.” And once you learn to listen to that reporting system, transformation stops being dramatic and starts being structural. Quiet. Consistent. Real. Assignment for the week: Nervous System Awareness Theme: Learning the language of the body Most people notice their reactions only after they’ve already happened. This week I am inviting you to detect the first whisper of activation - instead of the emotional explosion that comes later. The assignment invites you to track body sensations as neutral data. Not as dramatic intervention. Reflection Questions: • When did my nervous system feel most activated this week, even if it seemed like a small moment? What physical sensations showed up first in my body? • What was happening externally at that moment? Who was present, what was said, or what decision was in front of me? • If I slow that moment down, what did my body want to do instinctively (withdraw, defend, explain, freeze, fix something)? • What belief or assumption immediately followed the sensation in my body? • How long did it take before I noticed that my nervous system had shifted? • If I had noticed the activation earlier, what might have helped my body regulate more quickly? Just like last week's assignment, you will copy the questions and paste them with your answers in the comments. You have until Sunday to complete the assignment. It will be due by 4pm CST (so this will be Monday for you @Becca Sweeting and it should be about 8am your time)

For those in the donation space.... upcoming on the calendar 📅 Please be sure to use the link in the calendar on skool. This is the zoom link for the live. See you there! @Mena Hajek @Becca Sweeting @Samantha Olague