The Power of the Pause Button

In the heat of holiday stress, conflict happens fast. A sarcastic comment from a relative, a forgotten errand by a spouse—and suddenly, we explode.

Here is the best tool for your belt this week: The Pause.

When you feel your heart rate spike (that’s your body going into fight-or-flight), you lose access to the logical part of your brain. You literally cannot resolve conflict well in that state.

The Move: "I’m feeling flooded right now. I need 20 minutes to cool down, and then we can talk about this."

Need help mastering this? This is exactly the kind of practical skill we drill down on in our Connection Lab. Learning how to regulate yourself is the first step to connecting with others. We are opening up the link again. Check the link and join us tomorrow for our December Live Class.

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