🐦‍⬛ Visible Friday #15: Walking the Walk

This week's prompt isn't about your clients.

It's about you.

What's sitting in your own death admin pile?

Maybe it's the will you've been meaning to update. The Advance Care Directive that's still only half finished. The conversation you've been meaning to have with your family. The funeral wishes you've helped other people think about… but haven't quite written down for yourself.

I've been thinking about this a lot lately. How constantly looking “out there” for ideas can become an endless hustle - when actually if we pause and find the time to harvest from what we already have done (or haven’t done) - it can be a treasure trove of ideas that demands less from us energetically.

e.g. I recently recorded a podcast episode for ‘Play This At My Funeral’ & the conversation resulted in me talking through planning my own funeral ceremony, moment by moment, song by song - and it gifted me a new perspective, an embodied perspective - of how I truly want my funeral to feel for the people I leave behind. This dovetailed effortlessly into an existing content pillar for me around helping people approach funerals not a formality they have to get through, but a creative act of love they get to create. One last generous gesture. (Here's the short clip I've chosen to share on socials.)

That shift, from funeral as "burden" to funeral as "gift", has opened up a whole new way for me to talk about this work. And I only truly arrived there because I did my own admin first. Harvested from within from my own wants and wishes. And that's just funerals. As we know, there's so much more across the entire end of life / death / dying / ceremony / grief / remembrance spectrum.

The Dead Good sisters -

@Katy Vigurs

@Lindsey Vigurs

- put this into practice beautifully in a reel recently - really naming all that they want for their moments following death. It’s poignant and visceral and beautiful - (as is everything they do!) It's on Instagram here.

But take this inspiration and apply it for yourself. This is available to all of us - and is a powerful way to advocate for what's possible - simply by sharing our own story, choices and wishes.

🐦‍⬛ So here's the prompt:

What death admin is still sitting on your list?

Share where you're at. The unfinished bit, not just the polished outcome. What's the next step you need to take, and what's stopped you from taking it so far? Your hesitation is as useful to your audience as your certainty is.

For those of us in Australia, if you want a trendjacking angle, Dying to Know Day is coming up fast and about to take over most of August. It's a good hook if you want to talk about planning ahead while there's still time and space to do it properly, rather than in a crisis.

Whatever you share, keep it grounded in your own process. Not "here's what everyone should do" but "here's where I actually am with this, and here's what it's taught me." That's what makes people trust you enough to start their own version of the conversation.

Excited to see how this lands in you all -

Happy harvesting…

Only Love,

Amy 🐦‍⬛ x

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🐦‍⬛ Visible Friday #15: Walking the Walk