@Rositsa Aleksandrova and I were having a brilliant conversation in @Chanie Twersky’s Peak Parenting Group about becoming aware of the patterns (behaviour and words) from our parents, teachers and significant others that have impacted us in ways that we are not even aware of alot of the time! The consequence can often be that we, without realising it, can parrot to ourselves, our children and others, things that we didn’t need to hear or experience! Things that have impacted the way we see ourselves and others and ultimately, hold us back from being who we want to truly be! For me, as a musical child, it wasn’t criticism about my ability as such. It was often underhanded behaviour, from my teachers, to make me feel the need to compete with other students, even if they thought it was for my own good so that I would take music more seriously!!! Or my Mum getting regularly upset with me for not being as committed to my music as she wanted me to be! (Because she was possibly living out her own musical dreams and criticisms from her childhood, which was painful for her!!!!!) As a result of hounding from my Mum and music teachers, I felt like I was a lazy music student, and not serious! Also, they all told me how talented I was! That did not help because I was then expected to do more! And I felt the pressure!!!!!!! The possible impact of this on my life has been that I have often felt like a half arsed muso! That I was slack, lazy, not committed and I often question my ability and talent! While there are other factors that come into this (like being sensitive and anxious) the words, lines and intentions from people will always be there! The good thing for me is I have reflected a lot on these things and learn from how I connect with myself, my own children and music students! If I have even the slightest inkling of me being “pushy” with my kids or students, I’m aware of this! I still give them direction but I don’t say or act in ways where they can be impacted by unnecessary criticism. Different from constructive criticism!

Hi Tribers! I have been in Sam’s world for over 10 years now. He is one of my fav people in the world!!! Alignment and belief in it are the most important things for me and all people that I look up to. This is a great watch and definitely worth the time investment! In this video he shares quite a few things that are not known… Enjoy! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ Share YOUR thoughts 🥰 P.S. I am exhausted, went through over 2000 notifications so I can catch up as I NEVER want to mark them as “all read” and I am proud of myself for doing so. I believe each and every person that takes the time to write me should be acknowledged. I am going to bed cuz 4am comes fast!! But will check in here early tomorrow xoxo I love YOUssss so much!! ♥️ Blessings your way ✨✨✨✨