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Late Diagnosed

I thought I'd share a little bit about my journey with ADHD today.

I was only diagnosed in November last year. Even though it had been in my mind for a couple of years, getting that actual diagnosis was a revelation. It was like this pressure just lifted.

My brother said something funny. He said "when people find out they've got ADHD, their symptoms get worse." And I had to explain to him that no, it just means they start unmasking. Because I've realised that one of the things I can finally do is just be me. I'm not wrong. I'm not failing. I'm just different. And that has been huge.

I've suffered with anxiety my entire life. Depression too. And all the things that go with ADHD. The trouble managing my energy. The constant wondering "have I got CFS? What's wrong with me?" It's all linked in. And I realised just how many women are out there struggling with these same things.

When I was a kid I remember them saying girls can't get ADHD. It was seen as an American thing, a trend, and it was all about boys. Now they know differently. But knowing I've had this my whole life and looking back at everything, it makes so much sense.

The drinking too much when I was younger. Being told I was too opinionated. Always second guessing what I was getting wrong. Getting exhausted in the middle of the day. Pushing myself to the extreme with everything. Moving across the country in 10 days because it seemed like a good idea even though I knew no one where I was going. A whole life of impulsive decisions that I couldn't explain.

Then as I got older and had a kid, which is when symptoms ramp up for so many women, and perimenopause started kicking in, everything got worse. I was forgetting everything. I couldn't keep on top of my life. That's when I started seeking a diagnosis.

And what really got to me is that so much of the ADHD help out there is designed for men, by men. It's all about productivity. How to get more done. How to organise your life better. And that's not what I need right now.

What I need is something to balance the anxiety and the depression. To feel on an even keel so I can understand myself first. Then I can build systems from a place where I actually feel able to, rather than forcing another system I'll start for a week and drop.

What I've realised is that the safer I can make myself feel internally, and the more balanced my nervous system is, the easier it is to create a system that actually works for me. Because there is no one ADHD brain. The way yours works might be completely different to mine.

People say set loads of reminders. If I set loads of reminders I just ignore them. They become noise in the background and I tune them out. Those standard ADHD strategies don't work for everyone.

And that's partly about safety. That's what I've been working on, and that's what I teach other women. How to feel safe in their own system first, so everything else can follow.

That's why I launched the ADHD Reset Lab 🌿

It's got a founder's price of $15 a month and I'd love to invite you to start your free trial today: https://www.skool.com/the-adhd-reset-lab-8629/about

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