Hi all. One of my goals has been to provide you with resources on a wide range of topics related to family caregiving. Well, the library is open!! Go to "Classroom" in the top menu of our community; click there. You will find the beginnings of what I hope will become a valuable and growing collection of books, reference materials, and resources that you can 'check out' at your own pace based on your current concerns or needs. I always caution folks that books are great, but very non-specific to your unique situation. The information can be a great framework for basic understanding, but it can be difficult to figure out how to apply it to your situation. And, there is so much information out there that it can quickly become overwhelming and confusing. And, that is why this community exists!! Here's the place to ask questions on what you read and get clarifications on how the materials applies to your family. Here's to good reading!

Each of us is at a different point or stage in our family with having to concern ourselves with an aging loved one or any family member who requires more support and assist. Here's a quick poll on where you are at right now in providing support (even if from a geographical distance). Feel free to add your comments and thoughts.

Losing a loved one who has been a key part of your family is so hard. People will often say 'give it time' and I often want to say, 'Well, thanks, but I'm in such pain right now that time has been suspended and I don't feel any better and it's been (days, weeks, months) now.' The bigger part of your family the person was the bigger the hole feels that is left. So, how do you deal with all of the thoughts, emotions, and questions that overwhelm you in a time of loss and grief? Here's some things I have learned along the way having lost family members as well as every client/patient that I have had the privilege to serve. In a society that doesn't like to discuss death and grief, allow yourself to grieve and acknowledge its reality. Don't try to stop yourself from 'feeling' your way through the days and weeks ahead. If you try to stuff it or ignore it, it will come back again at a future time when some future event triggers that flood of emotion. Keep talking. Talk about your loved one, remember all the good things and even be willing to admit there were not so good things. No one is perfect and in keeping a balanced view of who our loved one was, how they lived their life, the impact they had on others, it helps to stay in touch with reality at a time when it feels like reality is too painful and overbearing to handle. Get outside. Go for a walk, go ride a bike, go to one of your favorite places. Just go. Take an action that isn't huge but something that gets your body moving. Physical movement and exercise helps to clear and calm your whole body - including your brain. And, it let's your mental focus become unfocused(it lets your conscious mind take a break and let's your subconscious mind take over without you having to do the 'work' of thinking). Put a memory book/video together with pictures, cards, mementos, and other special items or writings so you capture those key moments that are part of your memory of the person, what your current experience is and (this I believe is key) how having that person in your life helped to shape you and how you plan to honor your loved one in how you live your life going forward.

Happy New Year, everyone!! 🎉 I hope you had a wonderful holiday season and that 2026 is starting off on the right foot for you. One of the new features I’m introducing this year is something I’m calling “Ask Marsha.” This is your space to ask any question you have as you step in to support a loved one who needs a little extra help. You may be just beginning your caregiving journey, or you may already be deep into navigating life with an aging loved one. Either way, questions come up — and no question is too small, too big, or too specific. Here’s how it works: 👉Post your question in the comments so the group can see it and reflect on how they might handle a similar situation. 👉Then, every Friday, I’ll share answers, tips, and practical guidance in response to your questions. To give you a sense of what real life caregiving looks like — just in the past week alone, I’ve dealt with medication changes, health insurance issues, and an entire room full of mail (and yes, I mean every single piece of mail saved for a year 😅). So go ahead — post your questions, and let’s see how I can help with some practical tips and helpful hints.

My wife’s grandma Shirley passed last weekend at 95 years old and she’s taking it pretty hard as am I. She was like a parent, so sweet and thoughtful caring all the time. My wife Liv was telling me how she was like a parent to her and we’ve been going through old photos and videos together. She’s headed to the senior villa today to help clean out the room and maybe get more closure. We’re grateful she got to meet her great grand daughter Josie! And she loved her Grand dogs, scroll to the right/left to see some great memories. So I'm looking for tips that can help, thanks!