I’m holding space this month around our significant other in our lives. Whether you are looking for space to be held or still looking for the one, let’s support each other. I’ve been married for 23 years with 5 kids. We have been through the highs and lows, and will continue connecting and moving through my marriage. Who’s ready to join me in learning how the Man OS can support you in improving your relationship?

This morning in my discussions with @Jared Johnson and @Chance Lundgren we talked about safety and on the topic of injury, for me it isn't just about personal injury, but also property damage. When the kids or my wife are doing things with a disregard for say, the furniture it affects me more than it should. I'm constantly trying to avoid injury and deficit. Injury to my belongings that I worked hard to purchase and deficit from the time and money to repair or replace damaged items. Jared was talking a story about his wife and kids and I was immediately picturing the possible damages that could occur and that anticipation of damages started causing me some anxiety...lol. anyway, it was interesting thinking about the different harm and safety and applying them to different events.

I love words so I could word-smith this for hours, but here is where my intention landed as a "living intention" **I care how my actions affect others, but their interpretation does not change who I am. I will not flinch at accusations born from emotion. I acknowledge the emotion beneath the accusation and allow it space without defending myself.** Flinch is an important word because for me pausing is the hardest part I'm trying to learn to do and you can't pause and flinch. The other element is allowing space. I've always lived by trying to control the situation and then it ends up controlling me. if I'm pausing sometimes the situation will just work out on its own. But it never can if my response is a knee-jerk, defensive move.

My intention for today is to hug anyone that wants it, listen to anyone that needs it, and to just BE who I am. Everyone of you that is seeing this have a great day on purpose! Much Love! Drop your intention if you like, lets keep it going!

I had to rewrite these a few times before they felt mine, but here's where I am today. Know I want to know that my character is defined by how I live, not by how others interpret my actions. Misunderstanding does not change who I am. Do Respond to feelings, not accusations. Be I want to be a man who knows who he is and doesn’t feel the need to defend or justify it. Understand I want to understand the emotional trigger behind accusations so I can respond to the feeling instead of reacting to the words. I'm curious where I will be a year from now and put a block on my schedule a year from now. I'll probably forget about it, but I hope when it pops up, I'll be able to see how I've evolved and I wonder where my intentions will take me.