YOU ARE PRECIOUS. Before your start to deny it and scroll away. Just take 3 minutes and fucking read this please. Last Friday I got news that a friend of 30 plus years passed as a result of his own hand. I won’t get into the grim details. Last Saturday morning I got news that another friend of 25 plus years passed from complications of something that could have been managed by diet and movement. (And I know it is always deeper than that). He struggled for a long time with his relationship to food. Could that be the results of his own hand… consciously or unconsciously? Maybe. Regardless, a man in stuggle is a man in struggle. Struggle can always use support. Last Saturday afternoon I got news that another friend in his 30s. Passed as a result of a self inflicted gun wound. They were: All men. All hurting. 3 men I know. All talented. All brilliant. All loaded with potential. All beautiful souls. All have people who are wondering “what the fuck? How could this happen?” I am supporting a LOT of people. It doesn’t matter. I will make time. I still make space when people need deep help, in real time. Walking people off of ledges… Literally and figuratively. 18 months ago one of my closest friends ended his life. He knew I could support him. Yet he didn’t want to “bother” me. If you are worried about being a bother… that’s fine. Be a bother. And ask someone for help anyway. Be embarassed and ask for help anyway. ASK FOR FUCKING HELP. You are precious. Yes YOU, a man. You are precious. It is not a weaknes. You are precious. Not just to your mother. YOU ARE PRECIOUS period. You are important. Like the ring to Golum precious. Seeiously. If you are a man who is in distress right now…. Fucking bother someone. Please. Be honest and tell them all the depths. If you are a man who knows a man who you think is in distress… -Givng all his shit away -Speaking despair languge -Giving up -Isolating -Binge eating -Not eating at all Please… ask questions… even if you think you are “bothering them”, ask questions.

Alright fellas it's the end of the week. Let's hear it. What are you celebrating and acknowledging yourself for? I think one of the most powerful motivators and agents of change is celebration. And in my experience/perspective I would Love to see Men celebrate other Men more. So let's start by celebrating ourselves. I'll Start.

Alright fellas, Monday Language Check. What kind of language do you use when you talk to yourself/about yourself? Drop it in the comments and let's look under the hood at the language we use with ourselves.

Anybody here have awareness that repeat and resurface? As if saying "hello, I'm over here". Sometimes when I have repetitive realizations, it's easy for me to get frustrated. I notice myself lose momentum due to discouragement and the feeling/sense of "dangit....again". One thing that keeps coming up for me are administrative tasks & to-do's that don't seem to be getting completed or keep getting pushed aside. Let me know if this is something you can relate to. And what it is for you that keeps resurfacing for you.

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