2.2 know.be.do.understand

Spent about an hour this morning dialoguing with chatGPT to figure this out and better understand intentions and applying ManOS to my most recent awareness. The awareness is this: I let other's actions and feelings measure my character so my response if often to defend myself and justify and try to explain why I did what I did. I know why I act. My family means everything and when someone accuses me of putting something else first I feel like they're questioning my love devotion, commitment and I get defensive. If I'm wrong or they don't think I'm as good as I want to be they won't want or love me. I realized that I have to find the right words to rewrite the "code". So chatgpy helps because it can help me get the words right. Here's where I landed:

"I want to be a man who knows who he is and doesn’t feel the need to defend it."

Know: Misunderstanding doesn't define my character.

Do: Respond to feelings, not accusations.

Be: A man who knows who he is and doesn't feel the need to defend it.

Understand: Accusations often come from fear or hurt, not truth.

I really loved the analogy it gave me:

Think of a compass on a ship.

Storms, waves, and wind will constantly push the ship around.

But the captain doesn’t argue with the waves.

He checks the compass.

If the compass says he’s still on course, he stays steady.

If it says he drifted, he corrects course.