One of my students (14) complains to me daily about how her mom expects so much from her, yet has barely any expectations of her older brother (17). She has to clean and do everyone’s dishes, yet her brother doesn’t have any chores. She works because she has to pay for anything that she wants, including sports equipment, yet her brother has never worked and gets whatever he wants. Her mom hasn’t gone to any of her games, but is at all of her brother’s game. These are just a few examples, but this young lady expressed similar frustration that I’ve heard from many girls. She says when she points out her mom’s unfair parenting, her mom gets upset and starts yelling. Have you experienced this as a child or parent?

How many of you struggle with breaking generational curses when it comes to how you speak to your children or what expectations you’ve set (or not set)? Well here is some humor to show you are not alone lol. https://www.instagram.com/reel/DSdhfgiACvt/?igsh=ZnM3enk1YXF5bDVx

I often hear parents say, “I just wish my teen was more motivated.” But motivation isn’t something we can give them, it’s something they have to discover within themselves. The truth is, many teens aren’t unmotivated; they’re just uninspired. They don’t see how what they’re doing connects to who they want to become. When that connection is missing, even the most talented kid will feel stuck. At Compass, I’ve seen how helping a teen reconnect with their why changes everything. Grades, habits, even confidence. What’s one thing you’ve noticed actually sparks motivation in your teen and what shuts it down?

There was a small crash out at my house with my oldest daughter about some of her choices in regards to her own two kids and ans one of her baby daddy. We had a difference of opinion. So that lead to an argument. She is 25, lives with me. So that lead to her, my 14 year old daughter and my 23 year old son having a pow wow about how we “the parents” don't listen to them. I always since they were young drove in their heads that they can always come to me and talk about anything, yet they don’t. I can’t read minds if they don’t come to me I can’t “listen”. I want them to feel heard, what does that look like? Mind you my generation was taught to be seen and not heard. There was no anxiety and mental health and gentle parenting. 😩