What’s this overthinking? I don’t even have to explain it to any of you especially the youth nowadays. We all know it. From our own experiences, from someone else’s stories, from memes we scroll past all the time. Blah blah, blue blue. And trust me, I’m a victim of this beautiful illness yes, I call it beautiful. Because sometimes it’s a ni'mah from Allah. Some people don’t even think before speaking or doing anything, overthinking is far from their world. So yes, thinking deeply, seeing things from other people’s perspectives that’s not a curse. But the real question is: do we act upon it? If we think so much that we can already guess what people will think or say, are we careful with our moves? Are we thoughtful with our tongue? Or are we still doing what we always do hurting people with our words and actions? If we truly think this much, we should be more careful with how we speak, how we behave in public and at home. But no. Most of the time, we just keep thinking until we’re overwhelmed, that’s it. Overthinking doesn’t always make us wise; it makes us drained. We carry these heavy bundles in our hearts and minds, and they slowly pull us away from reality. Everything gets so messy that when the time comes to speak, we forget what we actually wanted to say and it comes out in an absurd way. Pretty common, sah? But the consequences are hard to handle. Far worse than we imagine. When we think endlessly but still react emotionally, without choosing our words properly, all that thinking becomes useless. It messes with your personality and how people see you. You feel sad, lonely, worn out all at once. At some point, you can’t sleep, work, eat, drink, or even exercise. You just… stop. And the truth is, we don’t really know how to stop it. Not at once, at least. It’s part of our nature now. But what if we replace it? I can’t stop thinking either. So instead, I try to replace useless thoughts with things that actually matter things connected to real life. Why not focus on the actual situation, and then react?

In life, you will meet many people who, after meeting them, teach you what love is not, what friendship is not, and what humanity is not. Sarcasm? Nope. This is reality. By watching some people’s habits and behavior, we learn exactly how not to behave. It’s ridiculous to even stand with them it feels like someone is choking you, suffocating you from inside. But we were taught to always be nice. We were told to respect people, to be polite, to have manners, to tolerate them, to listen silently no matter what they say. But no, my dear ones. You need to be kind, not nice. And if you are wise enough, you will know the differencet there is a huge difference, a sky and earth difference, between being kind and being nice. When a person is kind, the first person they are kind to is themselves to their mental peace. No one has the right to disrespect you and expect you to stay silent. When you are kind, you learn to respect yourself first. You learn to protect your self respect and dignity. I once watched a street interview. Someone asked an elderly man he was around 60–70 years old: “How should I deal with people?” He replied: “Accept people as they are, but place them where they belong. You are the CEO of your life. Hire, fire, and promote accordingly.” Meaning you decide who gets access to you and who doesn’t. Maintain relationships, be humane, but there is absolutely no obligation to tolerate bad behavior. Allahumma barik 🤍

Just accept things, you know the earlier you accept, the better it is for you. Accept the way you are your skin, weight, hair, eyes, nose etc..... Don’t be self conscious. Your Rab is Al-Musawwir (The Fashioner): the One who gives everything its unique shape, color, and specific beauty. Do you think He made you imperfect or ugly? No. You are unique, you are beautiful, and you are perfect in every shape and form. Don’t worry about the little tummy you have. It’s okay don’t push yourself, don’t be stressed about your weight. Just exercise and focus on consistency. One day, you’ll achieve your goals. Don’t worry about your hair. Not everyone in this world has beautiful, long, perfect hair. Some people are genetically bald at least we aren’t bald yet. So cherish your hair, take care of it, and style it in a beautiful way. Don’t worry about your acne and scars; it’s okay. Scars are actually good.....they show the struggle and hardship you went through, the pain you survived, and still you are living. Scars are like trophies, a reward for our wounds. So don’t worry about them, and accept them as a medal. And my dear, one day, when you accept everything as it is, your heart will be light, and you’ll be happier and more at peace, InshaAllah Ameen ya Rabbul Alamin So take care of yourself and be satisfied with yourself. Allahumma Barik 🤍

I really not feeling like productive. It feels like i am passing days. I am not procrastinating but its like i just don’t have the energy or motivation to do anything. Can you guys suggest something…… why December usually feels like the world is ending its more like “will i love me in December as i did in may” …. Everything feels like slow, depressed…

Sometimes, no matter how much we try to forgive a person, that person keeps coming back with the same mistakes and excuses. When this happens, you really don’t need to forgive that person again and again especially if it’s the same mistake repeating itself. Because now it’s not about them; it’s about you. Now you need to respect yourself and prioritize your boundaries. You don’t have to disrespect them or scream at them. Just calmly and respectfully distance yourself from them. All you have to say is: “I forgave you once and twice, but not anymore. This is the last time I’m forgiving you. If you need anything, of course I’m here you can come and ask but I don’t really think we can be friends anymore.” And that’s it! Remember, if you keep forgiving people and they are still causing you the same trouble, then you are the one who is letting this happen to yourself not them. That’s why do forgive, but don’t give them ten more chances to screw you over. Be kind, not nice there’s a huge difference between the two. Allahumma barik 🤍