7d • Relationship Growth
Principle over impulse
Great call today fellas! Thank you to everyone who shared. I enjoyed hearing everyone’s perspective.
I had a thought come up while people were sharing about attraction in interpersonal relationships and how that has the ability to get complicated in male to male relationships with men who have same sex attraction.
This is something I’ve personally worked on quite a bit and I think it’s a skill that can help bridge connection. I think it can be limiting when we’re attracted to someone and prioritize fulfilling our sexual/romantic impulse over slowing down, honoring the desire, and holding it without having to act on it. I think that when we can hold our attraction for a person but prioritize the connection, or what’s actually bonding us, over our personal desire to make it sexual or romantic, then we can open ourselves up to more meaningful experiences.
Not every desire has to be acted on and not every connection has to escalate. I think the more we can learn and practice that, the more we’re able to stay in integrity and community when we find someone attractive but we or they are not available for escalation.
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