So a few days ago I posted a conversation about my mom and I'm thinking back on it . I haven't had a good relationship with her my whole life . I feel like the runt of a little kinda like how they baby you but in all reality they don't care about you . She's always brought me down mentally and physically. I am thinking about like writing her off like hust letting her go . I get she's my mom but out of full honesty my stepmom in the last 9 months has done way more for me than my actual mother has done for me . So would writing her off be a good thing or will it bring me down I feel like I can only answer that . What I'm looking for is just someone to care about my feelings and boundaries enough to be able to have a healthy relationship with . A lot of my trauma and stuff is because I wasn't nurtured maternally . My questions is for any one to answer the question of How do I find myself if I don't even know where to start . How do I set boundaries without coming off as a wisemouth . How do I set expectations without breaking or feeling like I'm falling under pressure .