How Claire Wasted 6 Months Chasing "Exposure" Before Finding the Right Fit!
When families first start the college soccer recruiting process, there’s a word that gets thrown around constantly. You see it in camp brochures, hear it on the sidelines, and read it in email subject lines. That word is exposure! For the longest time, Claire thought exposure was the golden ticket. Maybe you’ve felt the same way—that if you just show up to enough places, wear the right jersey, and play in front of enough clipboards, the offers will magically roll in. But that idea led to six months of wasted time, energy, and money. The Struggle: The "Spray and Pray" Method Let’s be real: Claire’s story probably feels familiar. Like so many others, she fell into the trap known as the "Spray and Pray" method. The approach sounded simple enough—go everywhere. Sign up for massive showcase tournaments where hundreds of teams play on dozens of fields. Register for generic ID camps that promise "50+ College Coaches in Attendance!" Send copy-and-paste emails to every school in a three-state radius, swapping out just the coach's name (and sometimes forgetting that, too). Busy? Yes. Productive? Not so much. Weekends turned into a blur of travel, hotel rooms, and expensive registration fees. Tired parents, tired players, and in the end? Radio silence. Picture this: Claire standing on the sideline of a huge showcase in New Jersey. It's freezing cold. There are supposedly forty coaches watching the game. Maybe three actually are on the sideline—two of whom are scrolling their phones. It’s easy to feel invisible. After all those months chasing “exposure,” assuming visibility would lead to interest, the reality hits: the crowd is full, but no one is really watching. Just another jersey in a sea of thousands. The Realization: Relationships Beat Randomness Then—the turning point came. During a conversation with a coach from a small D3 school (one that wasn’t even on her original list), something clicked. The coach hadn’t spotted Claire at a giant showcase, but at a small, focused league game.