This is what I'm going through (28M, from India)...

I’m trying to cut off financial dependence from my parents — they are very lovely, but I can’t live with the guilt anymore. I’ve made mistakes, avoided responsibility, wasted years, and hurt them more than I want to admit.

The problem is: I’m not trying to “break free” — I’m trying to punish myself. My ego (more than that, the judgment of society) won’t let me take basic jobs, and my shame makes me believe I don’t deserve their support. I keep projecting my anger onto society instead of facing my own accountability.

I want to leave home with almost no money and try to rebuild myself, but I don’t trust my mindset. How do you start over when the biggest fight is not with life, but with your own pride, guilt, and self-sabotage?

How do you become independent without running away from your problems or destroying yourself in the process?

I’m not looking for sugarcoating — I need real guidance from people who’ve been in this mindset and actually turned their life around.

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