My breakthroughs on Grief! · Spiritual Rebels

My breakthroughs on Grief!

I lost my twin brother when we were only 18 in a car accident. I woke up in the hospital, tubes beeping, broken leg, broken bones, messed up bad. Wheelchair for months. Couldn’t even use my arm at first. Then almost 10 years after that lost my 2 year older brother from seizures.

Early on my spiritual path, people kept saying, Be grateful for everything. And I thought how? How do you thank the universe for that?

But then I started seeing it different. First breakthrough: I got grateful just for having them. For having my brothers, my dad. Those memories laughing, fighting, learning I wouldn’t trade a second. Even if their time was short, I’d still choose having them over never knowing them at all. The love didn’t die. It’s still here. I feel it every day like they’re just not in the room anymore, but the warmth? Same as before.That held me for years. But lately, I hit something bigger. I’m grateful not just for what we had, but for them leaving. Because that loss built me. It made me the guy people call when they’re drowning in grief. I don’t have magic words. I just sit with them. Tell them: yeah, it’s gonna hurt like a fresh scar, raw and burning. Some days it’ll rip open again, same as the first. But most days you’ll move. The pain doesn’t vanish it just shows up less. The scar stays, but you keep walking.

I tell them I made it. And they will too.

If my brothers and dad hadn’t gone if they hadn’t handed me that weight I wouldn’t be this strong. Not at love, not at grief. I wouldn’t be the shoulder anyone leans on. So yeah I cry now. But not from hurt. From love. From finally seeing how deep it goes. If you’re in that dark right now just know, the light comes. And the love? It never left. I am the love I am the light and may your light guide you down every road ahead.

Namaste,

David Burch...

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