I need you guys help · Shimon's Elite Tribe

I need you guys help

Hey ! I hope you guys are doing good

Personally I'm doing okay

So , a little context I made a best friend on Instagram , this guy is absolutely a gem of a friend !! We got close in a sec and we started planning stuff together , that we'll live together once I move out etc , we built trust actually and comfort .

Things were cool , until he started talking to this girl ( mind you he lives in another continent than I do ) so he talks to me about her etc and lemme clarify something , I am not attracted to him by any means , we are best friends and I love to see him at his best , but my nervous system snapped because I thought he was gonna replace me or abandon me , something like that , my traumas came to the surface and my anxiety peaked . He told me that hey , if anything comes in the way , I will communicate I won't randomly vanish but my old version of me keeps saying that he will ( which I know might be a trauma response ) but yeah .

And we still talk everyday , until today I told him I need to regulate my nervous system because I don't feel very good , and he was so understanding of the situation. I will take today to have an honest conversation with myself and do a little meditation because my anxiety became physical these 4 days ago .

What should I do to to take the attachment away , and keep the friendship healthy and comfortable for both of us ?

And if anyone has a way to cope with attachment anxiety please let me know .

Thank you all 🫶🏻

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