This makes so much sense and resonates deeply for me as my children have been stepping back towards me … and I can only speak for myself as an EP. I’m not in any way, shape, or form saying it’s easy for my ACs either.
I’m discovering that I don’t feel safe, and I don’t trust that I won’t say or do something that triggers another period of estrangement. I walked on eggshells for decades. This has been an on again, off again process for many years. Due to our specific family dynamic, I believe there needs to be very hard conversations that no one has the capacity to broach.
I think I’m getting the answer I’ve been seeking … I just need peace. And that’s what I desire for my ACs as well.