I have not been allowed to have a relationship with at all with my 2 younger grandchildren. 3 and 8 months. And have only been allowed to spend time with the 13 yr old one time in the past 3 yrs and that visit I was given a 10 hour notice I could pick her up from school and spend a few hours with her. It was a bit strained because it had been almost 3 yrs but it made us both happy and I enjoyed every moment! With strict rules. This child doesn’t belong to my current SIL who I don’t really know. Well I went to the ballgame of the 13 yr old. Sat. Which I’ve always done. At the end of ballgame she came over and told me she was going home with me! But , I had to take her to buy shorts and summer clothes that’s the only reason moms letting me come. “So let’s hurry up , go to Walmart and get clothes quick so we can go to your house and spend time”. Of course I was extremely happy she was coming with me but very angry that my Ed had put a financial stipulation on the fact I had to purchase clothes for here. My his was furious! Obviously I didn’t mind buying her clothes when I’ve always bought her clothes BUT… the fact my daughter even told her daughter this!!! My granddaughter is my girl , she spent every wknd with me and my husband every wknd prior to the estranged and then was just ripped away for 3 yrs! My heart was broken . My daughter has issues, she only chooses controlling men and she can’t be without one. She’s 36 and husband is 29. This one . And at the end of visit I had to drive 1 hr to take her home. She wouldn’t meet me but when we met her there she was all happy act like we had never had this estrangement. But she has in the past few months sent me a text stating I could begin to have visits with 13 old because it’s important to my granddaughter but that it would not change the relationship she had with me or the little children. Don’t get me wrong I will gladly do anything to keep a relationship with Charlie my granddaughter but I know it’s very conditional. I never acted upset or any different way to my daughter during the 2 visits. We tried to ask if we could see her a couple of wks ago and message was ignored. My husband and everyone else in family knows she is using me financially and always has. She manipulates because she knows I miss my granddaughter. I know I have to play the game to get visits and I know God is in control but I’m concerned about the damage to my granddaughter. Just need to vent . 😢

Not having any communication with my three sons is very discouraging! Seems like a huge mountain to climb, but I love my sons and I would climb any mountain for them

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Hi.. I am new here! I am a mom of 2 kids and estranged from them both, but for different reasons. Thankful to join a community that understands my struggles!