Apologies but my sister is travelling and staying with me for a week so I will spending the time with her. Will be back the following Sunday.

I wish I knew this 10 years ago, to the level I've recently understood it.. Just reading or having this brought to the conscious mind is a big part of relenquishing or dissolving resistance. Here are some realities we need to take into consideration. One of the biggest sources of anxiety in social and dating environments is the illusion that you are walking into a moment where the other person is fully formed, fully confident, and fully judging you. In reality, you are walking into another nervous system. Another person who is also managing uncertainty, safety, mood, self-image, social conditioning, and internal dialogue. When you approach someone, you are not entering a performance evaluation. You are entering a shared uncertainty moment. And most men have never been taught to see it that way. They think: “She is evaluating me.” More often, it is: “Something unexpected is happening, and my brain is deciding if this is safe, interesting, neutral, or not relevant.” That is a huge difference. The First Thing To Understand: You Are An Emotional Disruption When you approach someone, you interrupt whatever state they were in. Phone scrolling Thinking about work Talking to friends Feeling bored Feeling stressed Feeling invisible Feeling watched Feeling confident Feeling insecure You don’t control what state you walked into. This is why reactions vary so much. Not because of your worth. Because of timing + state + environment + her nervous system + past experiences. If you understand this deeply, rejection stops feeling personal and starts feeling contextual. Most Initial Reactions Are Nervous System Responses, Not Judgements About You Some common initial reactions you might see: Neutral confusion Polite friendliness Guarded politeness Curiosity Pleasant surprise Mild shock Closed-off response Quick dismissal Warm engagement These are usually not “final decisions about you as a human.” They are fast safety + relevance scans. Is this safe? Is this normal here?

The mind lives in psychological time (illusion) , the senses live in the present and now (reality)

Hello all, I am still in the process of making the video course a bit more practical and give a bit more context etc. How are you guys getting on with it? Really its designed for you to not be thinking so much, I will go into more meditative practices and talk more about attachment to self etc which once you drop, then interacting with whoever you want will be a lot smoother. Joe

I am use to stating my goals in the present tense. And I dont include "I want" I phrase it like "I have". Will it make that much of a difference?. Im willing to give this way of goal setting a try, I just want your take on that