How my reaction changed to taking a moment, slowing down and thinking before reacting was in a conversation with someone that was a friend. Needed to get something back from him and he didn’t want to meet and see me in person after a comment I made that he took with a different meaning then what I meant it as. He didn’t want to explain his said of how he took it when I asked so I could understand. Now I understand that he has the right to take it that way.
After he refused to meeting up and giving me back the item I slowed down the thought in my head and replied back with a thought through message asking him to get the item to a mutual friend to get to me. Then politely wished him nothing but the best in live with true meaning inside myself rather than before it would have been out of frustration and a sarcastic sentence since he decided the friendship was over.