Been 3 Years in MOA - Here are my top 10 Lessons

Been quiet here for a while. But after 3 years, 20+ of my own events in different cities, and more social reps than I can count, here are 10 things that I now see as non negotiables.

1. Instagram is even more important than I previously thought. I know it's the one thing that gets repeated the most - but even that does not encapsulate how important Instagram really is. I've seen many guys ruined their reputation with Instagram and I have seen a couple that do it extremely well. It has opened many doors for me in dating as well as meeting high value men in my city, if you have not fixed your Instagram, I don't know what you're doing.

Important notice: Do not get caught up in constantly thinking "ohh my instagram is not good enough yet so i cant go out meeting people..." Bullshit. I've seen guys get stuck in the fixing phase rather than doing it in parallel.

2. List building is a living document. At the beginning I invited a ton of girls, but never really dared inviting the hottest ones. The biggest realization was that the hotter the girl is the friendlier they are and the more open they are to coming to your event,. The six and sevens are usually the ones that are the less thankful and flaky. Dare to go to the top.

3. Be careful where you spend your time. The more you get known in your city the more people are going to want your time. A lot of people love talking, especially the ones that are "visionaries". This is why we don't listen to the words. Always look at what the person has accomplished rather than what they are planning to accomplish. It's fine if they are at least taking action into the right direction.

4. Compliance is the absolute social cheat code. This took me the longest to understand fully. I used to focus way too much on building Attraction rather than just gathering compliance. If you get this down, you're good to go in all things.

5. You get punished for your insecurities. The world does not reward overly shy people as Tai Lopez would say. This could not be more true. Regardless of what you are insecure about, it really doesn't matter. Most people are completely indulged in their own ego and that's OK. Do whatever you have to to convince yourself that you're good the way you are and put yourself out there. When I say punished, I mean that you are going to get left behind and people start doing things without you - simply because you don't have enough mental real estate for them, you don't get remembered.

6. Female Friends are like angles in your life. They calibrate you. They tell you where the hot shit is at. And they help you relax when everything else around you is turbulent. It is better to have a couple of female friends that you're not sleeping with than one chick that you are sleeping with.

7. Be careful of girls that are very stimulus seeking. I got into a relationship with a girl that was very stimulus seeking and I almost went nuts about this. Thankfully, I dodged a bullet and ended that relationship. I have found this trait to be more common and very attractive women that use Instagram a lot. Private Instagram accounts with low following can sometimes be a blessing.

8. Be careful about who you partner with when you start doing your own events. In the past three years I've organized more than 20 events and every time the event was great. I did it together with people that were non-needy, didn't have extreme insecurities and we're OK going to sleep alone. Welfare trade-off ratio is a good keyword here. Low-ego men make everything smoother. Especially when you're building social status.

9. Reflect, reflect, reflect. After Action Reports (AARs) are the secret sauce. Most guys skip this. But reflection turns mistakes into strategies. Over time, patterns emerge and you’ll realize social dynamics are far simpler than you thought. Complexity is a symptom of poor awareness.

10. Gratitude is the long-term game.

This community changed my life. Period. The skills, the people, the brutal honesty - all of it forced me to level up. I’ve spent thousands of euros here, and I’d do it again in a heartbeat. Gratitude is a mindset that attracts quality and multiplies returns.

Created this list as part to reflect the past three years for myself and distill the top 10 learnings to share with the community. I hope this helps.

Hit me up on IG if you want to connect: instagram.com/patrick_kinas

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