"The more pride you have in a particular aspect of your identity, the more motivated you will be to maintain the habits associated with it." -James Clear, Atomic Habits. Our identity or sense of self is merely a culmination of our daily actions. These habits solidify who we are by amassing evidence to support it through feedback loops. This works both positively and negatively. The belief that you just are a certain way is a trap of the mind. "Im not a morning person", "I've never been good at ____". These are self identifying statements that reinforce an inability to change. So how do we overcome ourselves to change for the better? Two principles can achieve this. A. First, you must practice identifying as already possessing the the traits or habits you wish to adapt as your own. For example, when I work with individuals to drop weight and lose fat. The people that adjust their mindset from "I AM fat" to "I'm an athlete, I just have some fat right now" perform exponentially better than people just trying hit a number on the scale so they can resume poor habits. Decide what kind of man, father or husband you want to be and identify as him. B. Which leads straight into part 2. When you know who you want to be, how you want to act, what habits you want to instill.... you must practice behaving like that person would now. If your goal is to lose fat, continuously ask yourself, "would a healthy person do that". If your goal is to stop drinking or smoking, your thoughts and responses should be "No thanks, I'm not a smoker/ I don't drink" not "I'm trying to quit". Deliberately make the decision to stop being that version of yourself that you want to change. It's OK if you do not succeed every single time. Your brain works on averages and majorities. Every time you make the favorable decision it's easier to do it again, and the more your subconscious expects to do it again and molds that into your new self. Eventually, the new behavior has more evidence than the old and it dies.

This is where disciplined men are forged. The Accountability & Challenges thread exists for one purpose: to provide a space where you declare your goals, commit to action, and hold yourself to a higher standard—publicly, consistently, and without excuses. Here, we operate on a simple code: 1. Radical Honesty This is where you tell the truth about where you stand—your wins, your struggles, your setbacks, and your progress. No filters, no ego. Just real men being real. 2. Daily Accountability Post your check-ins. Share what you committed to. Report what you completed. If you fall short, own it and recalibrate. If you win, stand tall and inspire. 3. Challenges to Build Discipline From time to time, you’ll see group challenges designed to push your limits—physically, mentally, spiritually, or in your habits. You may also create your own challenge and invite others to join. Whether it’s 5 days or 30 days, the intention is the same: build discipline through consistent action. 4. Brotherhood Over Isolation You are not doing this alone. Use this thread to encourage others, congratulate progress, call out complacency, and support men who are struggling. We get better together—iron sharpening iron. 5. Become the Man You Demand of Yourself This thread is both a mirror and a proving ground. Every post you make will sharpen your discipline, strengthen your mindset, and redefine what you expect from yourself. Drop your first post with: The challenge you're committing to Why it matters Your start date Your daily or weekly check-in format Then get to work.