Self leadership lessons round 2 · Lifestyle Founders Group™

Self leadership lessons round 2

When I came to this group last summer, the self leadership module felt exciting and activating because at the time I was trying to build my business before I had a solid foundation in my home. I am a stay at home mother to four kids with one on the way.

I grew up in a home without systems or structure, and as a mother I struggled to create them in my own household. I wanted my home to run in a way that gave me space for my business, but I did not yet have the internal or external framework to hold that. The self leadership module gave me a grounded foundation to build from and raised my daily standard of living in a very real way.

Because of the work I have done creating structure and systems in my home, I now have the ability to hold structure and systems in my business. I also have the nervous system capacity to stay with myself while building something bigger, which I simply did not have before.

As silly as it may sound, a clean and orderly home once felt threatening to me. My inner child linked cleanliness and order with the absence of my mother’s love. That subconscious standard became my set point. Any time I tried to expand beyond it, I would regulate back down until I did the inner work to integrate the trauma connected to it.

Now I am in round two of the self leadership modules and it is a completely different experience. I feel more grounded in my embodied power and more able to stay out of fantasy mode. Last summer this business felt like a dream I was chasing from desire and survival. That led to cycles of striving and then hiding.

As I look at and adapt Dan’s beautiful but masculine structure for the feminine, motherly flow I will be in for the next several years, I have learned that a rigid morning routine does not serve me. I am genuinely sleep deprived, and trying to visualize right when I wake up often just sends me back to sleep.

So here is my motherly version of an ideal day and week. Instead of a long visualization, I use a five minute grounded statement of fact that brings me into the frequency of my future self. I do this with my coffee before I wake the kids for school. Then I orient to what needs to be completed and what the day realistically holds, based on sleep, activities, meal prep, groceries, and the general rhythm of family life.

After school drop off, which is about an hour of driving, I eat, tidy up, and do light work that can be interrupted, because it will be. Then we wind down for nap time. During a solid two hour focus window I handle meal planning, food prep, or business tasks like coaching calls, filming, or creating assets. Lately that has been refining my offer.

After nap we have lunch, play, and learning time where I am fully in mom mode. Sometimes I finish a small task if she wakes early, but mostly it is presence. Then it is school pickup, activities, dinner, homework, bedtime, and a final kitchen reset. I fit in some exercise and then I am off to sleep. That is Monday through Thursday.

Friday through Sunday are for family. If I work, it is light. Editing, drafting an email, filming a bit of content. Then we begin again. Some weeks the kids are sick and everything shifts. I do what I can, and that is enough.

I have asked myself why not wait until the kids are older, why not wait for more time. The truth is this mission does not go quiet inside me. It lives in me. There is a pull to serve, to provide, to build something that matters. Especially moving into 2026, it feels like a steady fire in my soul.

Every spare pocket of time I have, I pour into becoming a heart led leader who creates wealth and impact. I am building systems that my children can grow inside of. That work feels sacred to me.

I believe the redistribution of wealth happens through the creator economy, through people who choose to monetize their gifts and lead with heart. People who build legacies and then show others how to do the same. Wealth moves through hands that are willing to circulate it generously.

It is people like me and like you who decide not to stay in survival, who step forward, share their gifts, and create impact. That is how things change. That is how legacy is built.

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