This is a common goal, and the good news is that it’s entirely achievable. The idea that lifting weights automatically makes you “bulky” is a myth. That bulky look you might be thinking of is the result of a very specific type of training combined with a significant calorie surplus (eating more calories than you burn). For most dads who want to be strong, athletic, and capable, that’s not the goal.
Here’s the approach:
- Focus on strength, not just size. Train in a lower rep range. Instead of the classic 8-12 reps for muscle growth (hypertrophy), focus on the 4-6 rep range. This will primarily develop your neural strength – your brain’s ability to recruit your muscle fibres – making you much stronger without necessarily adding a lot of size.
- Prioritise compound lifts. As we’ve said before, squats, deadlifts, bench presses, and overhead presses are your best friends. They give you the most bang for your buck, building functional, real-world strength.
- Control your calories. To avoid gaining unwanted weight (and therefore “bulk”), you need to be mindful of your nutrition. Eat at maintenance or in a very slight calorie deficit. This will allow you to build strength and even build some muscle (especially if you’re new to training) without adding excess body fat.
- Don’t neglect cardio. A good level of cardiovascular fitness is essential for a strong and healthy heart. It also helps with recovery and overall work capacity. A couple of sessions a week is a great addition.
Strength is about what your body can do, not just how it looks. Focus on performance, fuel your body well, and you’ll build a lean, athletic, and powerful physique that’s ready for anything.