As we are going further with councessnes and as I am discovering different point of views on the same matter, today I have privilege to speak with one older man who left his wife after 20 years.
As I had the similar experience, cause app 9 months ago I left 21 years old relationship, he recomend me book by dr Sue Johnson, Hold me tight.
With this book he discovered mainly struggleing in such relationship and understood where was all issues for all problems.
So, first just find below some documentary from this book. Maybe will be useful for someone.