For all those times when:
You snap when someone questions you.
You get defensive when feedback is given.
You feel rage bubble up when things don’t go your way.
Later, you regret it. You replay the moment.
You tell yourself you should’ve handled it better.
But the next time it happens… the same reaction shows up.
Because the real issue was never anger. It's what we think about the anger.
It was the belief that being challenged means being threatened.
🔹 That belief activates strong emotions
🔹 Which shows up as anger
🔹 Which becomes a way to protect your sense of worth when it feels shaky
Anger isn’t the problem. It's a signal that your self-worth is being guarded externally.
Peace comes when your worth no longer needs defending.
Next time anger rises, pause and ask:“What about this moment feels like a threat to me?”
That question alone can change how you respond.