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🌎 This Week’s Mental Wellness Monday from Dr. Pam mental wellness monday 2926

Authenticity

Authenticity is Skill #1 in learning to live in the perfectly normal state of imperfection we, as humans, must learn to accept and yes… even embrace if we are to love ourselves fully and in so doing love others well. It is the first attack strategy against shame—that feeling, experience, belief that we are flawed and unworthy.

So, let’s let go after shame and cultivate some authenticity, shall we?

Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we actually are. It’s about acceptance. Brene Brown’s authentic person motto is: “Get up, show up, be true and be you. And do it over and over again.”

To be authentic means developing the courage to be you, to show up as your full self without apology, excuse, or hold back. It means being vulnerable, allowing yourself the grace to be flawed, to make mistakes, but to keep moving forward and not give up. It means to try again, to take another risk, even if you may fail. Abraham Lincoln failed perhaps more than any human alive. He wrote about all his failures, but he never stopped showing up and look at all he accomplished for the good of mankind! Failure isn’t anything to be ashamed of. Not trying is the real problem.

Being authentic may mean setting new and different boundaries—maybe widening some, tightening up on others. It's important to test the waters sometimes before putting yourself fully out there. But there’s never an excuse to be fake or feel like you have to adjust who you are for anyone at any time. Of course, it’s important to be sensitive to others, and be aware of time and place.

To be authentic also means cultivating compassion—both self-compassion and other compassion. This means being kind and tolerant. When we mess up, it’s important to acknowledge the mess up, make a repair, if possible, apologize to yourself or another, then move on. Here’s where shame can really grab hold. It’s important to feel the hurt of disappointing another, being misunderstood, “falling down”, then shake the shame off. Address the feeling of shame, let it build humility and empathy, then let it go. Exercise the compassion that comes from knowing that you are only human and that life can be hard, and relationships can be tricky, and we will be, life will be, relationships will be imperfect.

Stay connected. The tendency with shame is to disconnect. We want to pull back, pull in, and shut down. We want to hide. We don’t want to try again. We don’t want to risk looking foolish, being judged, being rejected. Don’t disconnect. Continue to nurture connection. Keep showing up knowing that you are good enough in your imperfection.

Authentic people don’t sell out or sell short! Authentic killing self-talk sounds like this:

What if I think I’m enough, but no one else does? What if I let my imperfect self be seen and known, and nobody likes it? What if my friends and family like the perfect me better?

Fight back against inauthenticity! Don’t make others uncomfortable or upset anyone or hurt their feelings intentionally but hold your ground when it comes to being your true self. No one likes to be unliked but have the courage to disagree with the crowd if it means being true to you. You may get push-back but being inauthentic is an energy drain.

The Big DIG for Authenticity!

D — Deliberate — Don’t shrink back and don’t puff up—just be you! I — Inspirational — Courage is contagious. Catch the authenticity disease! G — Get going! — Make authenticity your A goal, if acceptance and approval come along with it—great that’s an A+

Building an authentic me alongside you,

Dr. Pam

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