Blessings to you all dear friends. I am becoming to know and starting to feel the joy and comfort of living life with a higher vibration, though for sure I have a long way to go. I was wondering what you do when you wake up one day with no motivation, with a feeling of depression and laziness. I often just get dragged into it and only properly emerge into the light after some days. I hate these times. Do you have any suggestions for how to stay afloat, or at least struggle back to the surface faster? I really want to get past this and feel a part of the universe, reveling in it's loving guiding energy!

Familiarity is such a safe place to be, but it can also be hindering. This past week, I've had to really truly know what it means to let go and make space. My anecdote starts here: Overcoming my addiction and really truly finding the authentic part of myself is what brought me to working in the transformation coaching space as I've had to do the work myself and I continue to today. This said and having also going through this journey alongside a close friend (who's pertinent to this story), I've had to let go not just of the drug itself, but the mindsets and habits that went with them. I took drugs out as being something that HAD to be a part of my day in some way, shape, or form to get anything done. I absolved my connections with those friends that could get their hands on said products for me until I could actually talk with them without triggerization. I had to forgive behaviors of either deceit or betrayal either from me unto others or from what others have done to me. So when said friend purposely goes back and uses with intention, but then wants me to pick up their emotional pieces yet chastises me and brings up my past mistakes as main points while I try to be as emotionally supportive as I can... It's like I'm being asked to disregard a self-made boundary... and that's been a hard-formed 'NO' over the course of my own healing journey. What makes this so terribly worse is that this friend was also on a self-healing journey alongside with me and we both used each other as accountability buddy's to get over our previous hurts and traumas. I understand that relapses will happen and I completely make space for that, but I cannot make space for my persona (as a therapist and/or life coach) being chastised because I'm not a good enough friend in his sense of being vulnerably high. Needless to say, this is rather heartbreaking for me. So much so that it has disrupted my head and heart space for me to work as diligently as I would like to. Even with the anger I have with me of knowing that he knows better but chooses not to and wanting to bring me back into old behavioral patterns, I'm also saddened with disappointment whilst my empathy level is off-charting. This has bothered me for several days and there hasn't been any communication on their end in the forms of any acknowledgement or apology even after giving time and checking in...and again, it's bothered me to a point to where I can't get my work done the way I'd like to.

12 Rules for Life - a distilled map through chaos with a philosopher’s compass - blends psychology, mythology, religion, and practical advice into 12 guiding principles for living a meaningful life. It’s less a checklist and more a series of lenses you can wear to see yourself and the world more clearly. At its core, the book argues that life is inherently difficult, often chaotic, and sometimes unfair. Instead of resisting that reality, Peterson suggests building strength, order, and responsibility as a way to stand upright inside the storm. The spine of the book (the 12 rules, in spirit) Each “rule” is a doorway into a bigger idea: - Stand up straight with your shoulders back - Biology meets behavior. Your posture reflects and shapes how you face the world. Act like someone who can handle things, and you start becoming that person. - Treat yourself like someone you’re responsible for helping - People often care for others better than themselves. The invitation: extend that same care inward. - Make friends with people who want the best for you - Your environment is a silent architect of your life. - Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today - Progress is personal. External comparison is a thief dressed as motivation. - Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them - Discipline is not cruelty. It’s guidance that helps shape functional humans. - Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world - Before fixing society, fix your immediate reality. Start small. Start close. - Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient) - Short-term pleasure is a sugar rush. Meaning is slow-burning fuel. - Tell the truth, or at least don’t lie - Lies warp reality. Enough of them, and you no longer know where you stand. - Assume the person you are listening to might know something you don’t - Listening becomes a form of humility-powered intelligence. - Be precise in your speech - Vague problems stay monsters. Named problems become manageable. - Do not bother children when they are skateboarding - Risk is part of growth. Overprotection weakens resilience. - Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street - Even in suffering, there are small pockets of grace. Notice them.