Ever notice how the more you try to stop a negative thought… the louder it gets?
There’s a really great saying in the Tantric tradition that I’ve heard Christopher Wallis share: thoughts are not truths, they’re just tools.
And yet, we tend to take them very seriously. We believe them, fight them, or try to get rid of them altogether, and that’s often what pulls us out of our power.
A lot of people say, “Why would I invite a thought that tells me I’m not good enough into conversation with other parts of me? I want it gone.” But has trying to get rid of it ever worked? For most people, it hasn’t.
What I’ve found is that a shift happens when you stop pushing those thoughts away and instead bring them in. You allow them into the home of your body, into the throne of your heart. You let them have a voice, and then you let them pass.
Because the more you fight a voice, the more power you give it. And the more you ignore it, the more it becomes a shadow part of you. But when you acknowledge it when you say, “You’re welcome here,” it stops running the show. It becomes just one part of you, rather than the authority.
We all have different voices inside of us. Some are supportive and expansive, telling us we’re capable and aligned. Others are critical and limiting, telling us we’re not enough or that we’ll fail. In somatic integration experiences, we don’t eliminate these voices; we change our relationship to them.
When you stop going to war with yourself, your whole system shifts. You feel more grounded, more connected, and more in your power. Over time, the critical voices lose their intensity because they no longer hold the same authority.
Even the harshest voice you have likely developed for a reason. At some point, it was trying to protect you, help you belong, or keep you safe in an environment where that mattered. When you begin to see it this way, there’s less need to fight it and more space to meet it with understanding.
This is how you start to reclaim your wholeness. Not by becoming only the “positive” parts of yourself, but by making space for all of you and choosing, again and again, to come back to your power.
What’s one thought you’ve been trying to get rid of… that might actually just want to be heard?