The Myth of Trying · High Vibe Tribe

The Myth of Trying

Here's an excerpt from a book I'm writing that may hold an insight for whoever needs it in this moment:

These people approach change with an “I’ll try” energy. I’ll try coaching. I’ll try therapy. I’ll try meditating. I’ll try to read some books. I’ll try positive thinking. I’ll try forgiveness. I’ll try to work on myself. And here’s the thing about trying - there’s no such thing as trying. Don’t believe me? Let’s play a game. I want you to put a pen in front of you and then try to pick it up. Did you pick it up? Or did you not pick it up? I mean, there’s really no in between - you either picked it up or didn’t. You either do something fully or you don’t. Trying is a lie we tell ourselves when we’re afraid to fully commit to the process. When we’re afraid to fail and want to stay in control. In trying, you’ll always just be trying - you’ll always feel like the change you want to make is just slightly out of reach. You’ll live a life of almosts - I almost changed. I almost went for that opportunity. I almost started my business. I almost fell in love. I almost traveled. I almost changed my life. But your need to stay in control kept you where you were.

Do you try to change your clothes? Try to cook? Write? Work? It doesn’t matter whether you do something well or poorly, you either do it or you don’t. But if you’re always trying, you never start. Once you commit to something - a greater level of you, a life that’s aligned with your most authentic self, a mission or a purpose - there’s no other option but the pursuit of it. No other path exists in your mind. It might take you ten days, weeks, months, or years, time doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters to you is your commitment to a greater expression of yourself in each moment. You fall in love with the journey as an end of itself. There’s no real outcome you seek, no final destination to arrive at. You drop into the essence of being your highest self in all moments you can remain conscious.

In moments of unconsciousness, you simply see it as an act of falling, not failing, but falling. Like when a little kid is learning to take their first step, every time they fall down, their parents don’t tell them that they failed. They say, hey buddy, you fell and that’s okay! You can get back up. That’s the difference that makes the difference. Allowing yourself the grace to fall down and get back up, without ever mistaking falling for failing. There’s no failure in falling; it’s simply feedback and learning. Each bruise gives you the opportunity to awaken a deeper part of your soul. And it all begins with letting go of control. Setting your safety net on fire. Deciding that the road to your old self simply does not exist. This isn’t a trial period, it’s a membership for life. You’re either in it or you’re not. That’s a decision only you can make for yourself.

There is no tomorrow. No next week. No next month. No next year. There is only this moment. All there ever is, is this moment. Life is too fragile for us to keep missing moments. Just think about what life will be like if you stay the same for another year, two years, three years, five years or ten years. What will you never experience? There might be a voice in you that tells you that of course you won’t stay the same for five years, obviously you’ll have changed by then. But here’s the truth friend, that can only happen if you make a different decision at this moment. If you keep living under the illusion that at some time in the future, when the circumstances are in your favor and you have more time or energy, you’ll commit to yourself, you’ll always be five years away from a different life.

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