Problem Defined And A Solution.

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I was reading

's post about mental and emotional energy vampires and boundaries. Good thread and good comments. I know something of this problem and want to address it.

Many of our memories are connected to emotions which act as triggers. First the mechanism: Whenever we remember something, be it a song, an event, a place, anything we are not remembering that thing . Neuroscience has proven that we are remembering the last time we remembered the original song, event, place etc. Like a photo copy of a photo copy. Copied along with the memory are the attached emotions. They get copied too, and retain the triggering ability.

Most solutions are slow to work if they work at all. Barring a head injury we can't just forget it. The attached emotions won't just vanish either....we can only repress them which eventually boils over. There is however a solution.

We can't get rid of the emotions or the memory, but we CAN get rid of their attachment to each other. Here is how. We need to revisit that place, song, location of event physically. We need to do while doing something we love. Play that song in your special place or during a favorite meal. Go to the location where that original event happened and do something really fun there. This will now replace the old memory copy and attached emotions with a newer more recent and happy one. You are literally reprogramming your memory and emotions.

Here is some proof. Think back in your life about intimate relationships that did not work out. For awhile after that, the thoughts of intimacy made you sad. When and how did that stop? It stopped immediately after you started being intimate with someone else. We CAN reprogram those vampires.

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Problem Defined And A Solution.