I realised that as I feel(and felt) both of my parents' love being conditional, I considered myself a terrible person, always compensating this by overachieving, overperforming and simply trying too much to compensate my unworthiness to the people around me. Then I burned out at work and suddenly could not overperform (or even perform) and realised how many of my relationships indeed were conditional. So this is something I am rewriting. Great to be capable, not so great if I feel that without that I am not good enough to be loved/liked/with. Plus making sure my love to my people feels unconditional to them.