How to I peacefully handle jealousy?

Hi everyone, I’m back with another question and I’d really appreciate some insight.

There’s a girl I work with, Cristina, and her energy toward me has become very obvious. She’s been projecting a lot of jealousy, and I’m not judging that as good or bad, it’s just the reality of what she’s putting out. I don’t think I’m better than her, and I don’t try to be. I simply show up as myself, and apparently my frequency is something she feels she can’t compete with. That’s not something I created, and it’s not something I’m responsible for fixing.

The situation gets complicated because we both work with Kevin, someone I care about deeply, and who cares about me just as much. For personal reasons, he and I haven’t labeled anything yet, but we both know exactly what we are to each other. We’re taking our time and letting things unfold naturally.

Cristina is also attracted to him, but not in a genuine way. It’s more about attention and validation. When Kevin is kind or attentive toward me, it clearly bothers her. She wants all eyes on her, and lately she’s been trying to provoke reactions, positioning herself, emphasizing her body, or trying to create the illusion of intimacy with him. Not because she actually cares about Kevin the way I do, but because she wants to get under my skin.

Normally, I’m very good at ignoring that kind of behavior. But last night she crossed a line. She did something disrespectful toward Kevin purely to trigger me, and it worked, I got boiling angry. Not because I’m insecure, but because she used him as a prop and tried to violate a boundary she had no right to touch.

I was a genuine friend to her, and she betrayed that trust. So I stepped back. I stopped engaging. And the moment I didn’t chase her or try to smooth things over, she couldn’t handle it. She lost access to my energy, and now she’s realizing she doesn’t stand on the same level she once assumed she did.

So here’s my question:

How do you stay rooted in your power when someone is sending you that heavy, jealous, evil-eye energy? How do you keep your frequency clean and sovereign when someone is actively trying to pull you into their insecurities.

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