My insights from day 4 homework:
The dynamic between Mom and Dad was loving, yet emotionally distant. I was the mediator between the two of them, so I always had to take one side or the other. My own needs often took a back seat. At the same time, I was expected to support my parents in emergencies. On top of that, my parents had high expectations of me and made that very clear. This left me feeling like I had to please everyone and that I was never good enough. So I am a performer / quiet one / peacemaker type.