I have written several letters to the people I have been in relationships and situationships with since my divorce from my children's father ten years ago. This was very healing to do, as I noticed that unfinished energy from past connections was unconsciously carrying over into new ones. Becoming more aware of this pattern helps me make conscious choices to stay anchored in my own field, rather than reacting out of compassion in ways that do not serve me.
I still feel love for each of them even after a relationship ends and we are not a good match in real life. However, I need to protect myself from lingering too much in that love, because when they seek attention, especially when there is strong attraction, it can leave me confused. Consciously creating more emotional distance helps me truly bring closure to what has ended and let it rest.