Chose happiness over being right....

I am a very punctual person. When I tell a friend I will be somewhere at a certain time, I make sure to arrive around that time. But that doesn’t mean I get angry if my friend is five minutes late. However, I had a friend who was consistently 30 minutes to an hour late, and I would keep waiting.

Now, it’s not reasonable to end a friendship over punctuality, but I personally believe in sticking to my word and being on time. Over time, I reflected and realized that she doesn’t share that belief, and her actions reflect that. We are all on different journeys, but we still have to interact and engage with people who may be misaligned with us in certain ways.

When I applied this perspective, I recognized that my anger while waiting wasn’t just about the delay—it came from my subconscious desire for her to believe what I believe, which is the importance of being on time. But recently, I met up with that same friend again, and this time, I fully detached from that expectation. I spent an hour waiting with ease and happiness. In the meantime, I even made a new connection because I chose to be happy rather than to be “right.”

Not for her sake, but for mine. And that experience also reaffirmed that I don’t have to give up on my belief just because someone else doesn’t share it. 😊

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