Good morning, I hope your day finds you experiencing at least a few joyful moments. Remembering a funny moment or sharing a gleeful story of your loved one or perhaps a win you didn’t see coming finally finds your way. No matter what know that you are not alone. I am here with you.. please drop a line even if it’s just what you ate this morning! Let’s find some joy in each other !

Don’t SIGN ANYTHING, NOTHING FOR ANYONE FOR ANY REASON without reading every line completely. Nothing is so serious that it must be signed now, I can almost certainly say nothing will collapse (beside their tower of b.s.) because you were wise enough to know exactly what you were signing before you signed it. ANY ONE THAT YRULY LOVES OR CARES FOR YOU WILL BE PROUD OF YOU FOR STANDING YOUR GROUND AND PROTECTING YOUR INTEREST TGSTD WHAT INTELLIGENT ADUKTS DO. Now, uuunfortunately if you get any type of aggressive, nasty, threatening, pushy or stand offish responses to your request than that right there is your proof that you absolutely need to have someone who understands legal jargon and the laws of your state to help you clearly and honestly what exactly you will or won’t be signing And if you’re concerned about the money end of it DONT BE! Many lawyers will give you a 30minute consultation free, there are a ton of online resources now available too and also if you qualify legal aid agencies and law schools within your area also may became to help. I am not an attorney but I have seen first hand the ugly side of “nice” people when money is involved. So without a doubt please protect yourself protect your loved ones wishes and get someone who can help you navigate your unique situation. If your googling type “wills, estates & probate attorneys “ and your area and please take a look at my classroom for my course on exactly this or feel free to reach out and I would be glad to help you understand your choices and find somewhere to get the legal advice you need! I offer one on one coaching and group coaching for small sets of 2- lots of love your not alone!

Good morning I see YOU! 🌅 Good morning. If you woke up and the first thing that hit you was the weight of what you’re carrying — I see you. If you woke up and forgot for a second, then remembered, and felt the wave all over again — I see you. If you woke up exhausted from a night of weird dreams or no sleep at all — I see you. If you woke up and somehow felt okay today, and that “okay” came with a side of guilt — I see you too. There’s no right way to start a grieving morning. There’s just the morning you got. And you’re here .so that counts. I see you!

🌿 Let’s talk about the pain of saying goodbye. There’s a kind of pain that doesn’t get named enough — the goodbye itself. The actual moment. The hand-holding. The last breath. The phone call. The voicemail you’ll never delete. The looking at someone and knowing this is it. It is one of the most sacred, brutal things a human being can experience. And nobody tells you how it actually feels. It feels like: 🌱 Time stretching and collapsing at the same time 🌱 Forgetting how to breathe and breathing too fast at the same time 🌱 Knowing they’re leaving and still being completely surprised when it happens 🌱 Wanting it to be over AND never wanting it to end 🌱 Saying everything you needed to say AND realizing you forgot half of it 🌱 Saying nothing because there are no words 🌱 Holding it together for them, then falling apart in your car 🌱 Not falling apart at all, and wondering if something is wrong with you 🌱 Replaying their last moments for weeks afterward 🌱 Feeling guilty for the relief you feel after long suffering If you have said goodbye to someone — recently or long ago — you know. You know that “saying goodbye” sounds so neat and ceremonial. Like a movie scene with soft lighting. Real goodbyes are messy. They’re rarely on cue. They happen in hospital rooms with bad fluorescent lights and beeping machines, or in living rooms on hospice beds, or on phone calls from far away, or — sometimes worst of all — not at all. You don’t get the goodbye. You only get the aftermath. I want you to hear this: However your goodbye happened — or didn’t happen — it counted. If you said everything: it counted. If you said nothing: it counted. If you weren’t there: it still counted. If you got there too late: it still counted. If they couldn’t hear you anymore: it still counted. If your last conversation was a fight: that counted too, and the love underneath it still counts. You don’t have to have done it “right” for it to be real. And here’s the thing nobody tells you about the pain of saying goodbye:

🌿 Let’s talk about manipulation. And specifically — how to stop giving the people who hurt you the show they’re trying to put on. Here’s the truth nobody hands you about manipulators: They don’t just want to hurt you. They want to WATCH you hurt. That’s the part that’s missed. The harm isn’t the goal — the reaction is the goal. Your tears. Your defensiveness. Your spiral. Your explanations. Your apologies for things you didn’t do. Your rage. Your collapse. The satisfaction of knowing they got under your skin one more time. If you’ve ever asked yourself “why do they keep doing this?” — that’s why. You’re the entertainment. I’m not saying that to hurt you. I’m saying it so you can finally stop trying to figure out what you did wrong. 🚩 THE MOVES MANIPULATORS USE (and what they’re actually after): 🌪️ Provocation disguised as concern. “I’m just worried about you.” “Everyone’s saying you’re not okay.” They want you to defend yourself — so they can tell people you “got defensive.” 🌪️ The deliberate dig. A comment, a “joke,” a public mention of something private. They want a reaction so they can call you “dramatic” when you respond. 🌪️ Triangulation. Sending messages through other people. Telling Aunt Susan you’re “going through a hard time.” They want you to find out and explode — so the explosion becomes proof they were right 🌪️ Manufactured emergencies. A sudden crisis. A health scare. A “we need you here NOW.” They want you destabilized — because you make worse decisions when you’re scrambling. 🌪️ The cold front. Suddenly icy. Withholding warmth. Acting like you did something. They want you to chase, ask, apologize. Now you’re working for their approval again. 🌪️ Public sympathy gathering. Telling their version of the story to everyone before you can. They want you to find out and react — so anyone who hears you sounds unhinged. 🌪️ The guilt trip. Reminding you of everything they “did for you.” They want you to fold, comply, perform gratitude 🌪️ The rewriting of history. Telling you things didn’t happen the way you remember. They want you to doubt your own mind — because if you can’t trust yourself, you’ll trust them.