This is one of the most important teachings I’ve recorded so far. There’s a subtle lie many Christians live under — that loving yourself is prideful. But Jesus commands it. In this video, I explain: • Why self-hatred fuels codependency • Why many Christians confuse sacrifice with love • How seeing God correctly changes how you see yourself Watch here: https://youtu.be/DRfhr3rASmQ?si=gAD2SPHY6MX5_TRK Then come back and tell me: What line hit you the hardest? [Signal 007]

https://youtu.be/WVe9BpaL0QQ?si=4FF5TY1waI3ggWAx Workshopping these ideas on Valentine’s Day 10am!

In this ongoing study of love that God seems to have me living inside of—not for a season, but for years, perhaps for a lifetime—I had a quiet revelation about how agape, or divine love, differs from its lesser forms: romantic love, familial love, and friendship. "May I be worthy of Your calling, Lord. May You fulfill every resolve for GOOD and every work of faith by Your power." II Thessalonians 1:11 I have been attempting to love the people in my life by encouraging those close to me with a God kind of love. I have been stumped by impatience, my own questions... and my fault-finding. The word "good" in this verse is the key to unlocking love. The Greek word agathos means to value something—and it shares the same root as agape love. This reframes everything. The contrast of goodness is not evil. It is worthlessness. To love is not merely to be kind. To love is to find value. So the question becomes uncomfortable, but necessary: Are you finding value in others—or in their faults? And what about yourself? Where have you withdrawn value? ........................................................ Love Workshop — Valentine’s Day

I used to think love meant staying longer than I should have. Explaining more carefully. Anticipating needs before they were spoken. I called it compassion. It was management. I wasn’t trying to control anyone. I was trying to keep the world from falling apart. Love became leverage — not because I was cruel, but because I was afraid. Afraid of loss. Afraid of rupture. Afraid of what would happen if I stopped trying. Eventually, love stopped feeling like love. It felt like labor. This week, I’m not teaching you how to love better. I’m questioning whether what we call love is actually fear in disguise. When did love become a strategy for staying safe? ... That’s the only question in the Love Workshop: No tools. No healing arc. No relief. Just the truth, undressed. Saturday, February 14th at 9am EST

True Signal: Love grows slowly. It listens. It stays present. Not giving to get. Not performing for approval. Not chasing recognition. Love is spacious. It resonates in the present moment. Distortion: We often call codependency love. It looks like: - Living performatively - Seeking validation and approval - Managing others’ emotions - Confusing busyness with care This “love” is rushed, anxious, controlling — and ultimately manipulative, even when it looks selfless. It abandons what God placed in your heart in order to be needed by others. Calibration: Slow down. Ask yourself honestly: What do I want — beneath what would keep others comfortable or impressed? What desire has God already placed in my heart? Do I believe God delights in fulfilling righteous desire —or do I secretly see Him as withholding, suspicious, or punitive? Sometimes what we call “self-denial” is actually self-righteousness —a refusal to receive, disguised as obedience. God gives according to the heart He Himself formed. He fills plans aligned with truth, not performance. “He gives according to your heart, and fills all your plans.”— Psalm 20:4 (TS2009) We’ll be going deeper into this distinction in the upcoming Love Workshop. Invitation: The Love Workshop📅 Saturday, February 14⏰ 9:00 AM EST We’ll explore: - Self-love as a commandment - Loving others without losing yourself - Why Jesus names love of neighbor as inseparable from love of God - How codependent patterns distort both Jesus doesn’t call us to disappear —He calls us to love from fullness.