Jan 16 • Signal Check
Signal Check 003: Love without Performance
True Signal:
Love grows slowly.
It listens.
It stays present.
Not giving to get. Not performing for approval. Not chasing recognition.
Love is spacious. It resonates in the present moment.
Distortion: We often call codependency love.
It looks like:
- Living performatively
- Seeking validation and approval
- Managing others’ emotions
- Confusing busyness with care
This “love” is rushed, anxious, controlling — and ultimately manipulative, even when it looks selfless.
It abandons what God placed in your heart in order to be needed by others.
Calibration: Slow down. Ask yourself honestly:
What do I want — beneath what would keep others comfortable or impressed?
What desire has God already placed in my heart?
Do I believe God delights in fulfilling righteous desire —or do I secretly see Him as withholding, suspicious, or punitive?
Sometimes what we call “self-denial” is actually self-righteousness —a refusal to receive, disguised as obedience.
God gives according to the heart He Himself formed. He fills plans aligned with truth, not performance.
“He gives according to your heart, and fills all your plans.”— Psalm 20:4 (TS2009)
We’ll be going deeper into this distinction in the upcoming Love Workshop.
Invitation:
The Love Workshop📅 Saturday, February 14⏰ 9:00 AM EST
We’ll explore:
- Self-love as a commandment
- Loving others without losing yourself
- Why Jesus names love of neighbor as inseparable from love of God
- How codependent patterns distort both
Jesus doesn’t call us to disappear —He calls us to love from fullness.
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Signal Check 003: Love without Performance
