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My #1 Marriage Hack

My wife and I are about to celebrate 27 years together, and we have four boys, ages 13, 15, 19, and 22. We are atypically happy (far from perfect, just statistically on one side of the curve), and as you can clearly see, she is disproportionately better looking than I am 🤣

What does this have to do with business? Everything.

The atmosphere in our homes fuels or frustrates the progress we make in our companies. Plus, one of my favorite quotes is, “No other success can compensate for failure in the home.” -D McKay.

So here it is...

The Rule Of 1.

I have found the most efficient and effective way to help my wife feel loved and appreciated...is using this rule of one. Here's an example:

One of my wife's love languages is gift giving. I can come home from work with flowers, chocolates, and a card. She feels appreciated and loved. That counts as 1. Or Flowers+Chocolates+Card = 1

OR...

I can bring her home flowers one day, chocolates another day, and a card another day at random. EACH of those counts as 1. Or Flowers+chocolates+card = 3. Each day, she feels the same appreciation, and we get a 3x return on the same effort. However...

There is a compounding effect of spreading out these gifts. By being consistent over time, it doubles the impact, making it 6. Or

6:1 ...thanks to the rule of 1.

Steps:

Determine her love language. See video attached. (Gifts work from some, service for others etc)
Ask her what she wants over dinner and take notes. (This act alone counts as 1).
Put it on a calendar and execute in advance.

It is that simple. The ROI is impossible to calculate. Yes, it may come across as overly tactical at first, but in the end, it will land as romantic. This is 27 years talking.

To be clear...

At times, my wife and I drive each other crazy, have fights, and struggle. This is marriage after all. But in the end, if we can look at our loved ones and know we would do it all again, THAT is a wealth that money can't buy.

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